I had a lapdance I had my work pants on and no underwear just the pants... if my zipper unzipped am I at risk for std... she was grinding me directly above my penis and gave me a kiss on the cheek at the end
Your genitals were not in contact with her as you had your pants on. That is no risk. You can not get an std through clothing. And a kiss on the cheek is also a non transmittable activity.