Bleeding after getting fingered

[Looser01]

Hi
I am a male 24 yrs 3 days ago i had sexual encounter with a male i met online 25 yrs i gave him blowjob and he sucked honey iff my nipples the thing that is bothering me is he git very aggressive and fingered me with his bare hands very hard that I got cuts in my anus after he was done fingering and my anus bled a little am I at risk of any std for bare hand rough fingering

[auntiejessi]

There is no risk for an STI here.

If someone is being too rough, and you don't like it, you should know you can stop that. Always feel you are allowed to stop or say no.

Also, lube can make fingering a lot less painful. :)

[Looser01]

Hi thanks yes I tried to stop him but he was very horny and didnot listen to me

[auntiejessi]

So not to get all preachy, but if someone doesn't listen to you, and continues, that's really problematic.

It's okay if you like things on the rough side. If you don't, or just don't like what one person is doing, and they don't let you stop, you can leave. That's assault.

You don't ever have to just suffer through what someone is doing to make them happy. I don't know what happened, but we don't talk about that part of sex ed enough.

[Looser01]

Yes you are absolutely right but that guy was stranger i met on dating app was very psyco he was pressing my neck if i was not listening to him he almost raped me was a very traumatic experience plus the pain i have in my anus cuz of his rough fingering and std scare i have. A LESSON LEARNED NEVER CALL STRANGERS TO BEDROOM ALWAYS FIRST GET TO KNOW THE PERSON A LITTLE BIT many psycho people out there.

[auntiejessi]

You did everything just right. Sometimes you just do what you need to do to get out of the situation with as little harm as possible.

This is not your fault at all. Ideally, we should all be able to invite anyone to our bedrooms, and those people will respect all of our wishes and boundaries. Sometimes, even when you know someone well, it can happen.

Don't discount or minimize your trauma. It's real and valid. Sexual assault and rape can and does happen to men. I don't know where you live, and please don't post it, especially if you are in an area that isn't safe for LGBTQ people, but if you can access counseling safely, please consider it.

I hope knowing that you have no STD risk is a comfort.

[Looser01]

Thank u so much for the comforting words i feel better

[auntiejessi]

You're welcome. Take care. :)