Chance of gonorrhea, chlamydia, etc from brief mouth-to-penis (receiving) incident?

[ruxruxrux]

I made an enormous mistake, as an otherwise totally faithful married man. I was on a business trip and I went for a late night massage while a bit uncharacteristically inebriated. It became fairly clear that the masseuse was going to provide the cliche "happy ending" (hand job), and -- against my better judgment -- I was welcoming of that in that moment. She began doing that for a few minutes and I just laid back and enjoyed it (I would, of course, later regret it -- this brief enjoyment was NOT at all worth it given the guilt and shame I feel).

After a few minutes, suddenly everything felt different. After maybe 10-20 seconds of this somewhat different sensation, I sit up a bit and see that she is actually providing me with oral sex. It's her mouth now, not her hand, on my penis. I fidget a bit to try to get her attention, but after a few seconds I politely but firmly tell her that I'm not interested in that, was only interested in her using her hand. She complied, and we finished the interaction shortly thereafter.

I felt guilty and terrible as soon as I left, but so so so much more in the morning, now sober and mildly hungover.

I've read up as best I can about the risk levels of that encounter, and they seem low -- but not non-existent.

I'm experiencing no CLEAR symptoms (no discharge, no burning feeling, no pain, no itching). I suppose the one thing I've latched onto is I've convinced myself that I feel "discomfort" in my testicles since I see that listed vaguely as a symptom.

I'm going to get a test tomorrow and will await its outcome and the consequences of that.

My question is this: how probable is it to get gonorrhea, chlamydia, or anything else from brief mouth-to-penis contact (on the receiving end)?

[auntiejessi]

Oral sex is lower risk than actual vaginal or anal sex, and most experts say that one act of oral sex doesn't warrant testing.

If it was truly less than a minute, I wouldn't even worry, sincerely.
There's never any risk for HIV from oral sex. The risk is low for gonorrhea, chlamydia, NGU, syphilis, and genital herpes type 1 (if you don't already have oral type 1 herpes).

Really, I wouldn't worry.

[Mikestephens142]

This helps me out as I had the same situation but as she was putting it in her mouth it was barely around my tip and I pulled away. Thank you

[ruxruxrux]

Thank you @auntiejessi for this response. It somewhat helps reduce my sky-high, crippling anxiety right now.

I have a long history of health anxiety. So, my very ill-advised mistake is all the worse because it is triggering in me my health anxiety. Part of me, of course, feels that I deserve to be punished with this anxiety for doing what I did. The guilt and shame weigh so heavily, and I'm going to ensure I never make this mistake again. But, for now, I have to work through it, and a big step is ensuring that I do not, in fact, have an STI from this idiotic encounter.

I wish I could say that your guidance 100% soothes my anxiety -- it does help quite a bit -- but I keep going back-and-forth. I'm going to go get tested right now, and then will wait on the results. Hopefully I start feeling better even before the results come in, and then hopefully the results validate what you say.

Thanks again. Much appreciated.

[auntiejessi]

Mikestephens - you're welcome. :)

[auntiejessi]

ruxruxrux -

This is catastrophic thinking, thinking that you deserve the worst, so the worst will happen. Are you in therapy? Please consider that.

Your anxiety doesn't change the facts - there is very little, if any, risk here. Oral sex is lower risk than vaginal or anal sex. Having very brief oral sex - just barely seconds of it - is highly unlikely to result in an STI.  Handjobs are not a risk at all.

The guilt is a separate issue. Guilt does not equal risk.

Hang in there.