Chlamydia possibility?

[Anxious1919]

Hello! I have recently been feeling very anxious about an encounter I had 2 years ago with a colleague.  My guilt and anxiety is so high lately... my life is so blessed and I feel like such a jerk for doing this.  I had protected (perhaps brief unprotected, I was drinking…) vaginal sex and some oral unprotected with him.  He is also married and said he didn’t do this ever (but I don’t believe him).  I have also had a baby since this encounter and he is healthy and I’m so blessed.  6 days after the encounter I tested vaginally which was negative, then again two weeks after vaginal and throat, both negative.  My dr didn’t test me for chlamydia during my pregnancy bc it was within 6 months of these negative tests.  Sometimes I have an itchy vulva (external) but usually I think it’s because of sweating/working out in yoga pants and hormonal changes….. my dr has me use an anti fungal if it gets bad and that helps, but it triggers me to worry about this.  My question is - were my tests accurate? Should I lay this to rest? I feel so much shame & have been ruminating….  Thank you!

[auntiejessi]

I absolutely agree. and you have to let this go. Life is too short to live with such guilt. Just learn the lessons from it, and let it go.

If you need to, get counseling, but you can let it go now. Enjoy your blessings. :)

[Anxious1919]

Auntie Jessi, it is a year later and I’m still feeling concerned about the test accuracy.  At the end of that pregnancy I had external itching that didn’t test positive for yeast, but my provider gave me a cream for external yeast infection just in case (it helped).  What if it was chlamydia from the year prior?

  Also, I am a bit traumatized because I tested positive for HPV after this encounter & after my baby (April 2022).   And I found out with my first baby I have HSV 1 (my husband gets cold sores).  So I have felt blind sided by this stuff before.

I occasionally have weird pinching pains outside my typical ovulation time as well, so it is three years since the incident and I’m always so paranoid I have long-term chlamydia or now PID.  This month I have been extremely stressed and spotted between my period, so my mind went to PID.  

That night we wore a condom during vaginal, but I was drinking so I’m not sure if it was 100% of the time.  I had tested for HIV/Syphilis as well about 15 weeks after the incident, negative of course.

My husband has had no apparent symptoms or complained of anything in the 3 years since.

Can I truly be confident that I am healthy/safe after this? I am so scared that if I were to get pregnant again I would test positive for something and potentially ruin my life. The anxiety/guilt eats away at me. I am so scared I have ruined my life and I’m waiting for the ball to drop.

Lastly, I’ll mention I am starting therapy next week as I recognize this anxiety is spiking again.

Thank you for any additional info/reassurance.

[Anxious1919]

My point is I worry this guy gave me HPV as I have never tested positive in 14 years with my husband.  So maybe he has other things that he could’ve passed to me or the chlamydia/gon testing missed somehow…

[auntiejessi]

So you had a whole baby and didn't give the baby anything, right? Baby was born healthy. That means you didn't have anything.

You can always go to an STD clinic or Planned Parenthood or something and test. You don't need your doctor's permission to test. If you need a final test to make this better, then test. I don't know why you do, because your tests were conclusive, but sometimes we need things for our mental health.

So go test. There are also websites you can use - STDCheck.com, LetsGetChecked.Com, HealthLabs.com - there are many out there, and they all offer specials and coupon codes online. Compare prices and collection methods and see what works for you. Some you do at home, some you go to a lab.

Just do something to put this behind you.

I'm happy you're going for therapy, too. I wish you the best. :)

[Gazsmithster]

Hi there,

so the test at 2 weeks is accurate and you do not have chlamydia :)