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Drunken Nightmare
I 33F went out with a 28F Co-worker and had a few drinks. We pretty much where under the influence of alcohol her husband comes and gets her we end up all making out and in bed. It really didn't last long about 30 mins I gave her head and he put it in like 3 times did not ejaculate. My coworker is known for promiscuity I would of never if I wasn't so intoxicated that it clouded my judgement. That was about 8 days ago and now I'm experiencing headache, anal itching and pain in my uterus. I am gonna go test but I don't know what the good window period would be.
Hi - auntiejessi gave you the testing times in her first response to you. So, any tests you take today for gonorrhea, chlamydia, trich and mycoplasma will be valid.
HIV won't be accurate until 28 days post-event, and you need to wait 6 weeks for a conclusive syphilis result.
HIV won't be accurate until 28 days post-event, and you need to wait 6 weeks for a conclusive syphilis result.
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I'm sorry this happened.
You can test for gonorrhea, chlamydia, trich and mycoplasma now. Make sure to get an oral swab, too. It's not at all likely you'd get anything from giving her oral, but it seems as if you don't remember some things, if I'm understanding correctly, and you could get oral gon/chlamydia if you gave him oral.
You can test for HIV with a 4th generation DUO test at 28 days.
You can test for syphilis at 6 weeks.
You can test for herpes at 6 weeks, and again at 12 weeks, but carefully consider this. The hsv2 IgG blood test has a decent number of false positives, and it takes a long time and a lot of money to sort that out.
Definitely get a physical exam. You could have yeast or bacterial vaginosis causing your pain.
Your username concerns me. Are you blaming yourself? If you were that drunk, you were unable to consent. It's a lot to process, I'm sure. I wasn't there, and I can't define your experience, but if you need help, RAINN.org is a good starting place.
Take care of you, and we're here if you have questions.
You can test for gonorrhea, chlamydia, trich and mycoplasma now. Make sure to get an oral swab, too. It's not at all likely you'd get anything from giving her oral, but it seems as if you don't remember some things, if I'm understanding correctly, and you could get oral gon/chlamydia if you gave him oral.
You can test for HIV with a 4th generation DUO test at 28 days.
You can test for syphilis at 6 weeks.
You can test for herpes at 6 weeks, and again at 12 weeks, but carefully consider this. The hsv2 IgG blood test has a decent number of false positives, and it takes a long time and a lot of money to sort that out.
Definitely get a physical exam. You could have yeast or bacterial vaginosis causing your pain.
Your username concerns me. Are you blaming yourself? If you were that drunk, you were unable to consent. It's a lot to process, I'm sure. I wasn't there, and I can't define your experience, but if you need help, RAINN.org is a good starting place.
Take care of you, and we're here if you have questions.
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Yes I do believe that w2w oral is low risk and as far as I remember I did not give him oral. What I'm actually worried about is that he pulled my pants down and put himself inside me with no barrier it was not consented as soon as I realized he had prob pumped like 3-4 times and I pushed him off me. After they I said no.
Since it was so brief, your chances of getting anything are quite low.
However, you are experiencing some symptoms, which could be anything from gonorrhea or chlamydia to a yeast infection. Your headache could be from stress, too. Obviously, without testing, there's no way too know.
Can you get into your doctor today? A Planned Parenthood? Urgent care would work, too, but a place trained in STDs is always best.
Let me know what happens.
However, you are experiencing some symptoms, which could be anything from gonorrhea or chlamydia to a yeast infection. Your headache could be from stress, too. Obviously, without testing, there's no way too know.
Can you get into your doctor today? A Planned Parenthood? Urgent care would work, too, but a place trained in STDs is always best.
Let me know what happens.
Hi it's me, I've been holding off on testing due to the window frame. But here is a update, freaking out I have developed burning feet and I googled it and it was prob indication of hiv I'm so scared and kicking myself in the ars. I have children I can't believe I was so irresponsible. I wouldn't know what to do. I've tried reaching out to my coworker and she seems to be ignoring me I want to ask her if she gotten tested or if she knows her status. I wish someone could help me. Carrying a huge amount of anxiety.
Also I might remember her fingering me she could of scratched me.
Your risk for that one encounter is too low to be worrying this much. At best you had an 8/10,000 risk per my research for that one exposure.
You can manifest physical pain and symptom from stress. I have PTSD and I've done some weird stuff. Once I put "scratch marks" on myself because of a weird dream. I wouldn't have believed it if i hadn't seen it. they went away quickly. I've also given myself extreme muscle pain to the point that I had to sit down.
You can manifest physical pain and symptom from stress. I have PTSD and I've done some weird stuff. Once I put "scratch marks" on myself because of a weird dream. I wouldn't have believed it if i hadn't seen it. they went away quickly. I've also given myself extreme muscle pain to the point that I had to sit down.
I posted in detail on another post about my experience. I just tested negative for HIV using an FDA approved at home test call or Oraquik. In your case I'd recommend a clinic because the window is sooner and you're panicking. I had to wait several months to be sure.
Long story short I've had a lot of exposures over the last 2-3 years. after researching the ones that I considered super risky were not that risky but the casual unprotected sex with "nice" girls wound up being my biggest statistical risk. I never deliberately went unprotected with high risk females and those females were getting tested often. The surprising thing was when I dated a preacher's daughter who claimed to be allergic to latex. She refused to let me use a condom. I went to church with her and met her family. I later found out that she had 3 other guys in the mix when I was with her. The non-monogamous girls I was with over the years rarely had that many active partners, were always safe, got tested, and more importantly werent lying about their other partners.
Long story short I've had a lot of exposures over the last 2-3 years. after researching the ones that I considered super risky were not that risky but the casual unprotected sex with "nice" girls wound up being my biggest statistical risk. I never deliberately went unprotected with high risk females and those females were getting tested often. The surprising thing was when I dated a preacher's daughter who claimed to be allergic to latex. She refused to let me use a condom. I went to church with her and met her family. I later found out that she had 3 other guys in the mix when I was with her. The non-monogamous girls I was with over the years rarely had that many active partners, were always safe, got tested, and more importantly werent lying about their other partners.
Currently at the clinic now it's been 12 days I'm not sure if anything will get picked up this soon, I am gonna request a Nat test hopefully they don't give me a hard time. My symptoms continue I do have nausea, headache, muscle aches, vagina feels like it's on fire and also my sole of feet. I'm hoping this is just a scare I'm hoping it was minimal exposure I wasn't planning on him entering me but I was drunk with slow reaction. I know she like to have a lot of sexual partners she has confessed to 3 in just 6 months and I've asked her if she uses protection and she stated no.
After this is all tested and settled, some time when talking about your general health with your doctor, ask about programs designed to address drinking to the level where you're in a place where things are out of your control. Women for Sobriety is a good program and there are others. I wouldn't suggest this except you called yourself "Never learns," suggesting that you have found yourself in a bad situation before from having a lot to drink. In a perfect world, a woman could be unable to care for herself due to drink and nobody would molest her, but it's not a perfect world and men are always willing to take advantage of a drunk woman. And of course there are also other issues with having had a few too many. See if you can find yourself a program, for your own safety and for the sake of your kids. Good luck!
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