How could my husband have gotten gonorrhea?

[colts91]

My husband just tested positive for gonorrhea but I don't understand how he could've gotten it because I absolutely didn't cheat on him and he is a paraplegic and has a hard time getting an erection and when he does it only lasts about a minute or two which bothers him so I don't see him cheating on me not to mention that he's been on house arrest for over a year and we live with my dad and one of us is always home and my dad would never in a million years let him have a woman over. Could the test be a false positive? Also, about 4 years ago he was never home because he was a really bad meth addict so he may have cheated on me then or injected his drugs (he swears he did neither but he may have) so could his symptoms just now started showing up? I'm really confused.

[auntiejessi]

If someone gets symptoms from gonorrhea, especially a man, they will usually appear within days of the infection. It would be very, very, very unlikely that he'd have it for 4 years and the both of you show no symptoms.

How was he tested? What were his symptoms?

What is he saying about how he got it?

Gonorrhea is only transmitted by oral, vaginal or anal sex. It is not transmitted by injecting drugs. HIV and hep B and C are, though.

Have you been tested? You need to be.

[colts91]

He was having a lot of pain when urinating plus it was sometimes hard for him to urinate and he was having a lot of off white discharge in his urine. They took a urine sample from him. He says he doesn't understand how he got it and he said that if I cheated on him then all he's asking is that I stop and don't do it again and he was almost crying. Of course he could've been almost crying from guilt I guess. He also said that he's not accusing me though. I have social anxiety so bad that I don't leave the house if I don't have to so there's no way I cheated on him plus I have major body issues and I don't even want my husband to see me naked and keep a shirt on during sex so I definitely did not cheat on him. I can't help but think that he had to have cheated on me but I just don't understand how he could have. I just don't know what to think.

[auntiejessi]

So it's interesting that they tested him for gonorrhea, or any STDs, given that he's married, on house arrest, etc.

If you went in with symptoms, they'd probably ask you if there was any reason to suspect an STD, and you'd likely say no, right?

Some places will routinely test for STDs with those symptoms, but that's far less common than not.

He has symptoms, so it's not likely to be a false positive.

Is he ever out of the house without you or your dad? I understand he's on house arrest, but he's probably allowed to go certain places - probation, the doctor's, etc.

At some point, he got this. I can't tell you when. If you weren't with someone else, he was. It's possible it was a year ago, but the chances that you'd both be without symptoms for a year are not high.

You need to get tested. That's very important.