Massage Parlor mistake - anxiety is overwhelming

[Someidiot2323]

I did it. 13 days ago I did the stupid stupid thing. I went to an Asian Masssage parlor and told them no extras, however the masseuse was aggressive. She started rubbing my dick then performed unprotected oral for less than a minute without my asking then finished with a hand job using oil and her saliva.

This has absolutely been CRUSHING me. I'm dying becuase I'm married and I should have stopped it and now I'm worried I got infected some how and my wife will find out.

I'm done after this. never again, I can't risk losing my wife and kids over one stupid stupid mistake I made. I tested for GON, NGU SYPHILLIS and Gon today. Nurse suggested  to take doxy for 14 days and eliminate any chance of syphilis.  I've had no symptoms, other than my anxiety and stress causing severe depression and worry.

Those things are all fine. I'm TERRIFIED I may have gotten Herpes 2 from this and might be asymptomatic.

Pretty certain I have HSV 1 from college but can it spread to my genitals as well?

14 days and I've had no symptoms of anything and I went back to the place and spoke to the masseuse. She told me she was clean and tested regularly @ but I can't risk my life on that.

Can someone please help me and tell me the odds I may secretly have HSV2 and could infect my wife when I get off the doxy?

Thank you all so much

[CurfewX]

You DID NOT get any STDs from the masseuse's hands. Hands do not transmit STDs or herpes.

The risk for getting anything from receiving oral sex is VERY low.

Gonorrhea: If you got gonorrhea, you might see symptoms like discharge and burning within 2-5 days. Not everyone gets symptoms.

Chlamydia:  Oral chlamydia is not common, and she would have had to have oral chlamydia to give it to you.  It could happen, but it is extremely unlikely. The symptoms and time frame are similar to gonorrhea.  

If you got tested for both about a week after the encounter, you shouldn't worry, but really, the risk is very low.

I don't know what activity you think put you at risk for HSV2, but I'm not seeing it.

[Someidiot2323]

Thank you for your input. I've only ever been with my wife of 15 years and literally knew nothing about STDs before this. I thought I read that receiving fellatio you could catch HSV2 on your genitalia.

All the other stuff I've only learned form this forum. I read a bit on the CDC sites but I feel like they try to scare the hell out of you and list if a LOT of hypotheticals that are only ever even theoretically possible.

I know a large part of what I'm feeling is anxiety and guilt, but it's been the worst/scariest 2 weeks of my life.

Thanks so much for your help and input on this. You all on this forum are helping more than you could ever realize for people like me.

[auntiejessi]

"I thought I read that receiving fellatio you could catch HSV2 on your genitalia."

What happens is that you can get genital herpes type 1 on your genitals, not hsv2. The number indicates the strain of the virus, not the location.

If you already have oral hsv1, the chances of you getting it in another location are very, very low. If you don't, it's still a low chance given the oral sex was brief.

You mention the CDC, so I'm guessing you're in the US. Even if you aren't, 67% of people under 50 globally have hsv1 already, and the vast majority never get symptoms. You could have it, your wife could, your parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc. - many of them likely have it. The rate goes up the older you are.

Syphilis is uncommon in most developed countries - the US, UK, Canada, European countries, etc. I wouldn't even worry about that.

What you are experiencing is guilt and anxiety. It's a good lesson, in a harsh way. Now you know that you are not the type of person who can handle going outside your marriage.

So, nothing to freak about in regards to STDs. You can let that go. If you can't let go of the anxiety and/or guilt, see a therapist.