Receptive rimming exposure risk

[Meepol]

I recently had my first gay experience and I was very clear about doing everything safe.

We only did protected oral both ways, but at one point, my partner (whose history I do not know) rimmed me for a minute. They stuck their tongue inside me.

I'm now spinning that I may have exposed myself, and am upset at myself for not immediately stopping my partner even though this was outside of my comfort zone.

From what I understand, my exposure risk is low. I'm vaccinated for HPV and as I understand this typically sits further in the throat. I'm just spiraling and need someone to set me straight.

My partner did not seem to have any oral wounds and believes they are clean.

What is my realistic exposure risk? This was only a few days ago. No symptoms, just regret.

Thanks in advance.

[GuitarRox]

I understand you are nervous but sincerely, try to relax. Oral sex in terms of std's is always low risk, PROTECTED oral is even less than no risk. And a tongue in the anus although unsanitary for the person who did it (lot of bacteria there . . .), it's not much of a risk to you. It likely was brief and I wouldn't worry. Not at all. I'd expect no symptoms from it and nothing to transpire.

[Meepol]

Thank you for your response.

On a scale from 1 - to being totally ridiculous, how would you rate my current thought process about securing a throat and rectal swab at the 4 week mark?

[Gazsmithster]

1 - absolutely no need.

[auntiejessi]

Absolutely agree here. Totally no need.

[Meepol]

Thanks to all 3 responders. I think I'm largely feeling like my boundaries were violated and am spiraling mostly from this perspective.

I'm relieved to hear that the risk is minimal. As I'm sure you're aware, online health searches error on the side of caution and tend to flag what you could be exposed to regardless of how likely that might actually be (ie syphilis, hpv, gonorrhea based on my activities).

I will try to take a deep breath.

[auntiejessi]

Boundaries being violated are one issue - and a huge one. Don't discount that, and remember that if you have a desire to hook up with this person again. He's not a safe person for you.

As far as STI risks go, you can let go of the concern for those. Many sites like to cover all their bases and list all the slightest possibilities, even if there are no documented cases of transmission from the activity. We have the ability to respond individually, and practically.

Even if he had given you oral sex to completion, most experts don't feel that is risky enough to warrant testing. A minute of rimming certainly doesn't.

Take care. :)

[Meepol]

I can't stress how much I appreciate all of you. The burden you've taken off my shoulders...

I appreciate you all very much.

[auntiejessi]

You're welcome. :)