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Hi, I (27-years-old male) made a really terrible decision last Wedensday. I did oral sex without a condom (as the recipient) , and anal sex with a condom (as the recipient, it's also the first time for me), with a man who I know nothing about him. I'm now very worried about be infected with STDs, and I'm also very remorseful about my actions.
I'm planing to get tested for related STDs such as gonorrhea, syphilis, HIV, etc. in this week and after 6 weeks. But I'm still worried about like HPV, which can't be easily known in 6 weeks. So what should I do?
In addition, the anxiety, panic, and remorse (maybe also waiting) are ruining my life. I can't focus on my work except for searching for information about the disease. And I have lost 5kg because of this in one week. So I went to a mental clinic for help this afternoon. After listening to me, the doctor suggested that I should go to another clinic for testing and gave me medication (Lemborexant and Mirtazapine). Will taking these medications affect my testing for STDs?
Could you give me some advice on my situation.
Thanks in advance
and sorry for my bad English.
I'm planing to get tested for related STDs such as gonorrhea, syphilis, HIV, etc. in this week and after 6 weeks. But I'm still worried about like HPV, which can't be easily known in 6 weeks. So what should I do?
In addition, the anxiety, panic, and remorse (maybe also waiting) are ruining my life. I can't focus on my work except for searching for information about the disease. And I have lost 5kg because of this in one week. So I went to a mental clinic for help this afternoon. After listening to me, the doctor suggested that I should go to another clinic for testing and gave me medication (Lemborexant and Mirtazapine). Will taking these medications affect my testing for STDs?
Could you give me some advice on my situation.
Thanks in advance
and sorry for my bad English.
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No, those medications won't affect any testing.
You can test for gonorrhea, chlamydia and NSU at 5-7 days.
You can test for syphilis at 6 weeks.
You had no risk for HIV, mycoplasma, trich, Hep A and Hep B because you used a condom for anal sex, and those are not transmitted by oral sex. If you must test for peace of mind, you can test at 6 weeks.
You can get a blood test for herpes at 6 weeks, but please note that there are false positives on the hsv2 blood test and those can be very hard to unravel, especially if you are outside the US. If you don't get sores/blisters, it might be a good idea not to test for herpes, especially if you are outside of the US.
There is no test for HPV for men, but you used a condom, which significantly reduces your risk. Have you had the HPV vaccine? You should talk to your doctor about it. It won't prevent it if you've been infected already, but it will help you for future encounters.
Is there a reason you are so distressed by this? Did you go outside a relationship? Are you upset by the same sex part of it? The casual sex part of it?
You had a sexual encounter. On the face of it, there's nothing wrong with that. Humans are sexual beings. Exploring your sexuality is normal.
You can test for gonorrhea, chlamydia and NSU at 5-7 days.
You can test for syphilis at 6 weeks.
You had no risk for HIV, mycoplasma, trich, Hep A and Hep B because you used a condom for anal sex, and those are not transmitted by oral sex. If you must test for peace of mind, you can test at 6 weeks.
You can get a blood test for herpes at 6 weeks, but please note that there are false positives on the hsv2 blood test and those can be very hard to unravel, especially if you are outside the US. If you don't get sores/blisters, it might be a good idea not to test for herpes, especially if you are outside of the US.
There is no test for HPV for men, but you used a condom, which significantly reduces your risk. Have you had the HPV vaccine? You should talk to your doctor about it. It won't prevent it if you've been infected already, but it will help you for future encounters.
Is there a reason you are so distressed by this? Did you go outside a relationship? Are you upset by the same sex part of it? The casual sex part of it?
You had a sexual encounter. On the face of it, there's nothing wrong with that. Humans are sexual beings. Exploring your sexuality is normal.
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Hi auntiejessi,
Thanks very much for the kind answer. It relaxes me a bit (sorry for the word "a bit" because I can't say I don't worry anymore).
About the HPV, I have not received the HPV vaccine. I will take your advice and talk to my doctor.
I will go to the clinic to talk about the herpes. My throat has been a bit uncomfortable since last week.
The reason why I did that is complicated and it also involves my personal situation. It is difficult for me to communicate with you in a public environment.
I would like to tell you the reason via private message if it is possible. (Because it is probably more about mental distress, not the STDs)
Thanks very much for the kind answer. It relaxes me a bit (sorry for the word "a bit" because I can't say I don't worry anymore).
About the HPV, I have not received the HPV vaccine. I will take your advice and talk to my doctor.
I will go to the clinic to talk about the herpes. My throat has been a bit uncomfortable since last week.
The reason why I did that is complicated and it also involves my personal situation. It is difficult for me to communicate with you in a public environment.
I would like to tell you the reason via private message if it is possible. (Because it is probably more about mental distress, not the STDs)
That's fine, you can PM me if you want. You don't have to reveal anything personal if you don't want to. The only reason I asked is because I wanted to reassure you that guilt doesn't mean risk.
If you didn't give oral sex, your throat wouldn't be sore. That has to be from something else.
Really, the chances that you got something are very, very low.
If you didn't give oral sex, your throat wouldn't be sore. That has to be from something else.
Really, the chances that you got something are very, very low.
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Herpes spreads by oral, vaginal and anal sex.
Herpes sores blister, then burst, scab and heal.
STIs are the most common cause of genital sores.
Millions of people are diagnosed with STDs in the U.S. each year.
STDs can't be transmitted by casual contact, like hugging or touching.
Syphilis is an STD that is transmitted by oral, genital and anal sex.
