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Just looking for reassurance and clarification for std risks

I’ve read some of the questions/answers and for the most part I feel comfortable that I am not at risk and shouldn’t worry.

However, I had a brief protected vaginal encounter with a sex worker.

I have been reading that syphilis, hpv and herpes can be transmitted even while wearing a condom; so now that has me worrying. Again the protected vaginal sex lasted maybe 4 or 6 minutes. She also did oral while I was wearing the condom.

Lastly. I had another encounter with a man that involved oral while wearing a condom, mutual masturbation without a condom and gentle French kissing. For what I read this is super low risk but wanted to get clarification on the unprotected mutual masturbation because there could have been some bodily fluids exchanged and finally about the kissing if there was any real risk.

Thank you very much for  your help
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Mutual masturbation is not a risk. Even though fluids may be exchanged, too much movement/air is involved, and any pathogen involved would die or degrade enough to not be able to transmit.

Yes, herpes/syphilis/HPV can be transmitted with condom use. These are transmitted by direct skin to skin (genital skin to skin, not arm/back/chest/whatever skin) contact, and condoms don't cover all the skin. However, condoms offer significant protection, and reduce the risk greatly.

Remember that sex workers wear condoms to protect themselves from their clients. They are protecting their health, their livelihoods, etc. They are doing this job to feed themselves and their families. They often test more than the general public, and have more vaccinations than the general public.

I don't know if you are worried because you went outside of a relationship, but guilt doesn't equal risk. Your risk is very low.  

Thank you, this clarified my concerns, I didn’t know about the skin to skin genital part. I think I’m doing everything I can to be safe by wearing a condom. Thank you very much!
You are doing everything you can by wearing a condom. Short of not having sex, or having every partner test prior, that's the best you can do.

In some countries, like the US, you can get the HPV vaccine up to age 45. Talk to your doctor or a local STD clinic or Planned Parenthood. It protects against the 9 most common strains of HPV.

In other countries, it's up to 26. Check where you live.

Otherwise, you're doing everything you can. :)
Hi, I’m not freaking out, just looking for direction. I know that when this is recent we tend to be excessively aware of our bodies. I suddenly felt some dry patch of skin on my foreskin, I scratched it trying to peel off, I know , bad idea. I made the area a little bit sore. But there is a very distinctive dark bump, I have these small dark bumps on my testicles caused by high blood pressure and I didn’t know if that would be related but I’m a bit concerned because it kind a look like a wart or a small mole. I also developed a wart on my index finger prior to developing this bump on my foreskin. I have had some very slight discomfort on my penis but no pain, I know a lot of it could being hyper aware.

Should I test for Sti’s with the development of this small round dark bump? Is it likely to be Hpv, i don’t think I had genital to genital skin contact but i don’t know what else it could be.

Thank you very much for your help
The warts on your hands are not the same strain of warts that affect the genitals. Those are totally unrelated things. There are many strains of HPV, and some only affect the feet, some only affect the genitals, etc. The ones that affect your hands don't affect your genitals.

I think that since you're concerned about these bumps, you should get examined. There is no test for men for HPV, and unless they decide to do a biopsy, it's a visual diagnosis. I can't tell you what they are - no one online can. Only a qualified medical professional who examines you in person can.

The timing of the small dark bump and the fact that you picked at a dry spot suggests that it isn't an STI, but since you're concerned, you should get it checked. Even if it isn't an STI, it doesn't mean it doesn't warrant medical attention, either.

Are you treating the high blood pressure? That should also be a discussion with your doctor.

Thank you so much for replying, Yes I am treating my blood pressure. I understand the timing is whacky and it's probably unrelated, but it was concerning because it seems unusual to get something like a mole (raised bump) on the foreskin, I know the anxiety is because I know I used protection and I feel like why would get something? I am going to go to the doctor to get it checked out, I don't have any other symptoms that I'd imagine would go along with genital warts. I am over the age to get the hpv vaccine :( so for now I am going to refrain from sex, because I worry too much afterward.

Thank you again for your help!
You're welcome. Since you worry so much, is anxiety a thing? That might be something to talk with your doctor about. There are good treatments available that can bring you some relief.
Yes it is a thing and I am on meds and I was seeing a psychologist. I might need to start seeing her again :). Thank you Auntie Jessi :0)
You're welcome. :)

I've been in therapy on and off my entire adult life. When I go back, I call it a therapy booster shot. It never hurts. Remember that your mental health is as important as your physical health.
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