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Skin on skin worry
Hello, this forum has been very helpful to me in the past. Yet I regret I am back here for a new concern. Two Mondays ago I met with a guy, we did discuss sti's before meeting, he says he was tested in December and had a clear bill of health. And had supposedly been with no one else besides his partner since then . The extent of our interaction was we both masturbated ourselves, there was no direct contact between our genitals . But at one point I briefly rubbed his leg and chest and he briefly rubbed my back, chest and maybe abdomen. And his side torso may have touched my side torso. Is there any risk of skin to skin sti from this . I have read here that skin to skin means genital skin to genital skin or to mouth or to anus. I hope this is correct. I would think that such brief contact from hands and possibly torso would not transmit anything. I developed ad red sore with a yellowish center ,Kind of like a scab center ,on my left abdomen 11 days later, it could have been a burn from solder dripping on me at work but I cannot 100% remember. And the spot is painless so I am a little concerned of syphilis in particular. I am married so this would be a life changer if it is. Thank you for any input. Also I did not notice any spots on him. But I wasn't really looking for any either
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You've already read that skin to skin means oral to genital, genital to genital, or genital to anal skin.
It doesn't mean any other body part. Arms, legs, chest, back - whatever, it doesn't include those parts. It only includes the thin mucous membrane skin.
There is no risk here. None at all. You don't need to test. You don't need to worry. There are no what-if scenarios you can come back with that will change this.
I don't know what is on your abdomen, but it's not syphilis. Test if you need to ease your mind, but it will be negative.
In Oct, you told me you'd do counseling. Did that happen?
Also, no judgement here at all, but if cheating on your spouse causes you such anxiety, maybe stop doing that. I don't know your reasons for doing it, but work things out with your partner. Maybe try marriage counseling as well as individual counseling for you. I don't know if you are going outside the marriage for the thrill, because something is lacking in your marriage, or simply because you can, but it's not working for you. I say this only because your mental health is as important as your physical health.
It doesn't mean any other body part. Arms, legs, chest, back - whatever, it doesn't include those parts. It only includes the thin mucous membrane skin.
There is no risk here. None at all. You don't need to test. You don't need to worry. There are no what-if scenarios you can come back with that will change this.
I don't know what is on your abdomen, but it's not syphilis. Test if you need to ease your mind, but it will be negative.
In Oct, you told me you'd do counseling. Did that happen?
Also, no judgement here at all, but if cheating on your spouse causes you such anxiety, maybe stop doing that. I don't know your reasons for doing it, but work things out with your partner. Maybe try marriage counseling as well as individual counseling for you. I don't know if you are going outside the marriage for the thrill, because something is lacking in your marriage, or simply because you can, but it's not working for you. I say this only because your mental health is as important as your physical health.
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Thank you Auntie Jessie . I had fully intended to get counseling, however ,no , it did not happen. I do need to stop extramarital activities,as I realize I can't emotionally or mentally handle the anxiety afterwards. Thank you for your answer And for your concern.
You're welcome. Get that counseling.
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Herpes spreads by oral, vaginal and anal sex.
Herpes sores blister, then burst, scab and heal.
STIs are the most common cause of genital sores.
Millions of people are diagnosed with STDs in the U.S. each year.
STDs can't be transmitted by casual contact, like hugging or touching.
Syphilis is an STD that is transmitted by oral, genital and anal sex.
