Rimjob, licking, biting and stds..

[rlauncher1]

Hi I am freaking out a little bit.

I consider myself straight, but curious.

2 days ago, I met up with a much older gay guy from the internet.

I am very cautious about my sexual health so I strictly said no oral sex, just mutual ejaculation and massage.

Anyways the following happened:

-Lots of mutual touching in the groin area (saliva was used)

-He bit and kissed my body (no kissing or lip to lip contact) all over except for the penis.

-Oil and saliva were used.

-He rubbed his penis on my butt area (no insertion).

-he licked/bit my anal region and thighs a lot (including the part where the legs meet the scrotum). Maybe a little licking on the balls as well.

That is when I got scared of what I was doing and left.

I noticed later he had a dark spot on his lips, which he said was just a lip blemish and that his dermatologist said not to worry about. He also claimed to be std free (I don't trust people easily).

I am really really freaking out now. I read in many places that there is almost negligible chance of me catching any sort of std.

I am very worried about syphilis and herpes though.

It is to the point where I do not want to have sex with this one girl I usually see.

My question: taking the situation into account, did I put myself in danger? Should I get tested? and can I continue having sex with the girl I see? She is on birth control so we do not use protection and we are both tested to be clean.

PLEASE respond so I know what to do next.

Thank you so much in advanced! Really freaking out now/feeling guilty.

[rlauncher1]

Can someone else give their opinion on this too? Just looking for a bit more input.

[Life360_Dave]

Ive explained that there is a risk for you partner. Testing for herpes is at 3 months and syphilis is 6 weeks. Forget symptoms and remember testing. Why put an innocent victim at risk?

[rlauncher1]

Thanks,  just got confused because a lot of the other responses by grace and teak mentioned it's such a low risk activity that we shouldn't even worry.  I am getting tested anyways after a month. Thanks!

[Life360_Dave]

Yes, the touching is no risk but things like penis rubbing on the butt and similar lip contact would be a risk for herpes and syphilis so thats why im saying to test for your partners protection. Since you had a risk (however low it was) presents a risk to your partner. Dont worry about your sefl, worry about your partner.

[rlauncher1]

Sorry to squeeze it more than I should but should I go for testing only if I see symptoms?   Either way, is sex 4 days after the encounter (no symptoms)  a bad idea? Thank you so much.  I'm still worried sick :( I can't stop thinking I caught something.

[Life360_Dave]

Hi, takes much more than your describing to contract herpes or syphilis and testing would recommended with symptoms like genital sores or if you have a regular partner.
Herpes----3 months
syphilis----6 weeks

[rlauncher1]

So unless I feel or see the signs,  I can rest assured I didn't catch anything?  Practically speaking,  what are the chances of catching something through the activities I described anyway. I want to have sex this weekend (4 days after said activity), would my partner be safe?  Am I worrying for nothing?  
Thanks