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Unprotected Oral/Vaginal , and Unprotected Oral with someone else.
I decided to come to these forums since its better than asking on reddit, and would rather ask here maybe get a professional's opinion on this situation.
So I haven't been sexually active in about a year and a half, and this past month I had two sexual encounters with random people I met.
The first one was a female that I met at a bar, who just got out of a relationship from what she said. She gave me oral and I penetrated her vagina with no condom on. (I never ejaculated, and that was about 3-4 weeks ago)
The 2nd experience was someone I met on a dating website, who I found out was a meth head, they proceeded to give me oral and then told me to ejaculate by masturbating on a towel. (This was this past Sunday, so about 4 days ago)
On Tuesday, I felt my penis was irritated, when I looked at it, it was bright shiny red and a bit dry looking. Yesterday I decided to full examine my body and realized that the folds of my thighs were white, scaly dry and red. It itches from time to time, but I can feel my penis head is irritated whenever I rub against it through my pants. What are the chances this is a serious STD or a fungal infection? (I had balanitis about 6-7 years ago but wanted to ask here)
So I haven't been sexually active in about a year and a half, and this past month I had two sexual encounters with random people I met.
The first one was a female that I met at a bar, who just got out of a relationship from what she said. She gave me oral and I penetrated her vagina with no condom on. (I never ejaculated, and that was about 3-4 weeks ago)
The 2nd experience was someone I met on a dating website, who I found out was a meth head, they proceeded to give me oral and then told me to ejaculate by masturbating on a towel. (This was this past Sunday, so about 4 days ago)
On Tuesday, I felt my penis was irritated, when I looked at it, it was bright shiny red and a bit dry looking. Yesterday I decided to full examine my body and realized that the folds of my thighs were white, scaly dry and red. It itches from time to time, but I can feel my penis head is irritated whenever I rub against it through my pants. What are the chances this is a serious STD or a fungal infection? (I had balanitis about 6-7 years ago but wanted to ask here)
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So receiving oral sex puts you at risk for getting gonorrhea, chlamydia, syphilis, NGU and genital herpes type 1. Syphilis is uncommon in most developed countries, and if you already have oral hsv1, you can't get it again genitally.
Unprotected vaginal sex means you're at risk for all STDs. Obviously, her risk levels play a part, but if she has an STD, you're at risk for getting it. You not ejaculating lowers her risk slightly if you had one, but means nothing for your risk.
Scaly skin usually means either a fungal infection, or something like dermatitis, eczema, a allergic reaction perhaps, but if the partner you penetrated had a yeast infection, it's possible for you to get that. People can also have yeast in their mouths. It's also possible that you just coincidentally got a fungal infection apart from any of your activity - it's summer in most places, and there are heat waves everywhere. If you've been sweating, that can contribute.
Since you've had unprotected sex, you should get checked out. You can test for NGU, gonorrhea and chlamydia at 5 days, syphilis at 6 weeks, HIV at 28 days with a 4th gen DUO test, herpes at 12 weeks. I'd for sure get your skin checked out now, though.
Unprotected vaginal sex means you're at risk for all STDs. Obviously, her risk levels play a part, but if she has an STD, you're at risk for getting it. You not ejaculating lowers her risk slightly if you had one, but means nothing for your risk.
Scaly skin usually means either a fungal infection, or something like dermatitis, eczema, a allergic reaction perhaps, but if the partner you penetrated had a yeast infection, it's possible for you to get that. People can also have yeast in their mouths. It's also possible that you just coincidentally got a fungal infection apart from any of your activity - it's summer in most places, and there are heat waves everywhere. If you've been sweating, that can contribute.
Since you've had unprotected sex, you should get checked out. You can test for NGU, gonorrhea and chlamydia at 5 days, syphilis at 6 weeks, HIV at 28 days with a 4th gen DUO test, herpes at 12 weeks. I'd for sure get your skin checked out now, though.
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Yeah, I actually have a doctor's appointment on Tuesday but decided I could get some ease of mind now. I thought me getting circumcised would make it so I didn't really get a fungal infection again down there, but I guess I'm still at risk. I do go to the gym, and there are times where the machines are wiped down and I'll have the wetness seep through my shorts, so I'm thinking maybe this was all coincidence and happened due to the gym machines/sweating?
How high would you my chances are from these one time experiences? I just kinda wanna ease that from the equation right now.
How high would you my chances are from these one time experiences? I just kinda wanna ease that from the equation right now.
Anyone can get a fungal infection, circumcised or not. You are less likely to get a fungal infection on the head of your penis if you are, but you can still get one anywhere else on your genitals.
The gym is a prime place to get a fungal infection.
I can't give you odds. ORal sex is lower risk than penetrative vaginal sex, but not knowing their histories makes it hard to say. The one who just got out of a relationship - did her partner cheat? Did he cheat once or several times? It's really hard to know. How many partners has she had since?
The meth addict - was she a sex worker? Just someone you met and hooked up with?
Maybe both of them have infrequent sexual activity - maybe they are very frequently active. Your symptoms still sound fungal to me, but testing is a good idea to at least put your mind at ease.
The gym is a prime place to get a fungal infection.
I can't give you odds. ORal sex is lower risk than penetrative vaginal sex, but not knowing their histories makes it hard to say. The one who just got out of a relationship - did her partner cheat? Did he cheat once or several times? It's really hard to know. How many partners has she had since?
The meth addict - was she a sex worker? Just someone you met and hooked up with?
Maybe both of them have infrequent sexual activity - maybe they are very frequently active. Your symptoms still sound fungal to me, but testing is a good idea to at least put your mind at ease.
Yeah, I didn't get to ask her why they broke up, but I believe they were dating for awhile or a years. All I know is she was a zumbo instructor unfortunately. They had also said they weren't looking for a hook up buddy, so I think out of just my thought that she was a clean person.
The meth addict was just someone I met on a dating site, I asked them if they were an escort and they said no. All I got from them was oral pleasure, I didn't give them anything back nor did I have sexual intercourse with them.
I looked at a calendar And its been almost 3 weeks since I had sex with the zumba woman.
The meth addict was just someone I met on a dating site, I asked them if they were an escort and they said no. All I got from them was oral pleasure, I didn't give them anything back nor did I have sexual intercourse with them.
I looked at a calendar And its been almost 3 weeks since I had sex with the zumba woman.
"A zumba instructor unfortunately" - why is that bad?
Chances are good that you didn't get anything, and we could try to analyze your odds for hours, but it would be all speculation.
Also - "clean" people are people who've showered. People with STDs are not thus "dirty". I'm quite sure you meant nothing by that, but there is a stigma with STDs that we work to fight, and that's part of it. Just pointing it out for you and other readers. :)
Chances are good that you didn't get anything, and we could try to analyze your odds for hours, but it would be all speculation.
Also - "clean" people are people who've showered. People with STDs are not thus "dirty". I'm quite sure you meant nothing by that, but there is a stigma with STDs that we work to fight, and that's part of it. Just pointing it out for you and other readers. :)
Oh I meant by thats all I know about them, that they are a instructor for zumba classes. And yeah I didn't mean it like that at all, I just used it as a term that I believe they didn't have any STDs, no offense to it but I'll use a different use to matter.
Also just one more thing to ask, in the back of my mouth on my tongue, there is red dots/bumps. They don't hurt or anything, but I noticed their was one specifically on the back on the side of my tongue. Is this anything to worry about? Someone on reddit said maybe I contrated HPV warts?
Also just one more thing to ask, in the back of my mouth on my tongue, there is red dots/bumps. They don't hurt or anything, but I noticed their was one specifically on the back on the side of my tongue. Is this anything to worry about? Someone on reddit said maybe I contrated HPV warts?
You can get oral HPV, but most of the time, that doesn't give you symptoms. Also, you didn't perform oral, so you aren't at risk for oral HPV. Since you only received oral and had sex, your risk is only genital.
Bumps on the back of the tongue are quite common, and are probably not a cause for concern. The papillae, or taste buds, can be easily irritated, and the circumvallate papillae, are large to start with. If there is no pain, and the inflammation lingers for more than a few days, get it checked, but it's probably fine.
https://www.medicinenet.com/when_you_have_bumps_on_the_back_of_your_tongue/article.htm
Since you had no oral exposure yourself, this is not connected.
Take some time OFF the internet. Watch a movie, read a book, play video games, hang out with friends as long as it is covid-safe for you to so where you live. You will drive yourself insane if you keep researching this.
Bumps on the back of the tongue are quite common, and are probably not a cause for concern. The papillae, or taste buds, can be easily irritated, and the circumvallate papillae, are large to start with. If there is no pain, and the inflammation lingers for more than a few days, get it checked, but it's probably fine.
https://www.medicinenet.com/when_you_have_bumps_on_the_back_of_your_tongue/article.htm
Since you had no oral exposure yourself, this is not connected.
Take some time OFF the internet. Watch a movie, read a book, play video games, hang out with friends as long as it is covid-safe for you to so where you live. You will drive yourself insane if you keep researching this.
I know, I've already had the worst 4 days of my life and just giving myself the worst case scenario possibilities which isn't helping my cause. The reason why I asked was because the person who preformed oral on me, kissed me, but I was giving hesitate peck kisses kinda like folding my lips in, but it was like one or two kisses. No tongue or anything like that.
And sorry, I'm acting like most of the people who freak out about these things, letting that hypochondriac side just kick into overdrive.
And sorry, I'm acting like most of the people who freak out about these things, letting that hypochondriac side just kick into overdrive.
You shouldn't worry about kisses (or anything in your mouth, for that matter), it is very uncommon to catch an STI via kissing (except oral herpes). Bumps.in your mouth are not HPV warts.
I sttongly support Auntiejesse's advice to stop counting the odds (they are not too high from a single exposure) or looking for things online. The anxious mind will make you notice all the bad things and skip positive things, aggravating your anxiety.
You should do the tests at due dates and act accordingly. Take care.
I sttongly support Auntiejesse's advice to stop counting the odds (they are not too high from a single exposure) or looking for things online. The anxious mind will make you notice all the bad things and skip positive things, aggravating your anxiety.
You should do the tests at due dates and act accordingly. Take care.
Thank you and I analyzed it in my head
Did I have sex with the one person from the bar? Yes. Do I have a high chance of getting anything? No
Did I get oral from someone else? Yes. Did I penetrate them? No
So my chances are low to none, I'm going to say and this is a lesson that I just don't want to do anymore random hookups.
Did I have sex with the one person from the bar? Yes. Do I have a high chance of getting anything? No
Did I get oral from someone else? Yes. Did I penetrate them? No
So my chances are low to none, I'm going to say and this is a lesson that I just don't want to do anymore random hookups.
Yeah, that's a decent assessment.
Not everyone is good at random hookups. I'm not, for loads of reasons. It's all good - you know now. :)
Not everyone is good at random hookups. I'm not, for loads of reasons. It's all good - you know now. :)
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