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Is it normal for a 11y girl to be sexually manipulative...

My GF's 11y daughter tries to act like such a kind sweet and normal child until her mom leaves the room or leaves the house. The first time it happened, I was in the shower and her mom ran out to the store and she wanted to get in the shower with me. Other times, she tries to touch me in my crotch area anytime her mom leaves the room. But has now started saying if I don't let her she'll tell her mom that ''I TRIED TOUGHING HER''....WHAT ON EARTH AM I TO DO...
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Okay so first, an 11 year old acting out sexually would imply that she may have been sexually abused in the past, or been exposed to things she shouldn't have been. Don't put adult motives on her - she's 11. She doesn't know how to "sexually manipulate".

What you do is TELL HER MOTHER. Don't put any blame on the child. Share your concern, which you may have to dredge up from somewhere, since you express none, but she deserves. You tell the mother that you think her daughter needs some counseling because she is expressing sexual things she shouldn't know yet, and under no circumstances, for her sake and yours, are you to be left alone with her.

You lock the bathroom door.

She IS a sweet and normal child. She may have been abused, and this is no fault of her own. I'm sort of stunned that you think a child is capable of such manipulative behavior, and that your thoughts didn't once go to "Where did she learn this at such a young age?"

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11 year old like that ins't 100 thousand per cent innocent.  When i was 11 i knew the difference between lying and getting someone in deep trouble and being honest about something.  Stay away from her lock the bathroom door and collect evidence in your favor when she threatens you that way like audio recording her threats.  Tell the mother to have a talk with her.  
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I think there is a really good chance the guy is misinterpreting it.  And I always give benefit of the doubt to a child first.  And the number of men who prey upon single mothers with daughters is large.  Unfortunately.  If he is concerned, this may not be the right relationship for him.  No one he is just dating is worth his integrity getting mixed up in this kind of drama with an 11 year old girl who if this is in any way true, needs some emotional support from adults who don't call her manipulative but rather that she is confused.  I hope her mother is of strong character and never picks a man over her kid.
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Suggestion of auntijessy appears to be okay and practical. He must be on very good terms with his girlfriend and he has to convince her that her daughter needs professional advice .It is obvious that the girl had some sexial experience with her mom's boyfriend.Professinonal advice is a must.
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