Erection an penis sensitivity problem! urgent

[Tomas2500]

Hi my name is Thomas and im a 17 year old male. so basically, this has been bugging me for a while. There are two answers i need for the issue. Basically ever since i can remember, sex has been more effort than pleasure. This is extremely annoying as it can take a lot of time before i can orgasm. This is with and without a condom. There is only one girl with which i have had regular intercourse with however, i have had sex with three other girls. Often when im having sex i realise that im thinking stuff completely unrelated, and i thought that when youre having sex it just feels good. However i often cant even recognise if im inside the girl or not...i.e we'll be having sex, i  slip out and keep thrusting because i dont even realise. I thought there might be an issue with damaged nerves or something. So recently ive stopped masterbating(i used to do it daily) in the hope that this helps, however i have not been able to test out wether this helps or not. My other issue is that i can have a full strong erection just from lying next to my girlfriend, yet the second we get down to have sex, i cant get hard, and when i do its never rock solid. im not the nervous type, so ive put aside the possibility of it being an anxiety thing. Any other ideas? This is an extremely uncomfortable situation for me to be in as i really like this girl. Even when i can get hard enough, i often go soft rather soon (five to ten minutes later) and then it never gets as hard again. please let me know if you can help! thanks a million, by the way, with one of my exes i was fully hard without a problem, but like i said, with limited sensitivity, and since her i havent been able to stay fully hard with other girls.

[love_a_challenge]

I'm sorry... your post doesn't mention anything about you watching excessive porn but this still goes hand in hand with your excessive masturbation habit. Your mind needs time to adjust from the change. I don't think you have anxiety issues. It's just a new experience you're not used to because you been masturbating for years.

[love_a_challenge]

let me explain to you what's happening. watching excessive porn and masturbating to it makes you bored very easily when it comes to real sex. The reason the first time you had sex with her went pretty well because it was the first time and you were really excited about it. Now that you had sex with her the anticipation is not that high as before. And the reason you feel like this is because of watching excessive porn. Just think about it.... When you watch a porn scene for the first time it's a great experience but NOW that you seen that scene before there is no more excitement to it. Internet porn allows men to jump from scene to scene just to get back that natural excitement. We can't do that in real life unless you choose to be a man who just want to have sex with a woman one time and then go to the next woman. In your case,  you want to be with the same woman but your desire to have sex with her is not as strong as the first time. The solution is to reduce watching porn and masturbating to it. This will take some time because  your mind needs to adjust to the change.

[Tomas2500]

yeah but i have a new girlfriend and we have had sex twice. the first time we were drunk and i was hard just not rock hard, but last time, aftrr a week of no masterbation, i was completely soft. could thrre be anything else? i really like her and i dont want to go see a doctor etc. it might be nerves, but i dont know how to fix that

[love_a_challenge]

So recently ive stopped masterbating(i used to do it daily) in the hope that this helps, however i have not been able to test out wether this helps or not. -----------------------YES if you stop masturbating for a while you will start to feel better stimulation from the vagina during sex. It is suppose to make your penis feel GREAT!

My other issue is that i can have a full strong erection just from lying next to my girlfriend, yet the second we get down to have sex, i cant get hard, and when i do its never rock solid. im not the nervous type, so ive put aside the possibility of it being an anxiety thing. Any other ideas?---------- The problem is you always keeping yourself satisfied through masturbation and masturbation is lazy work. Sex requires work. Just stop masturbating for a while.