Hi my name is Thomas and im a 17 year old male. so basically, this has been bugging me for a while. There are two answers i need for the issue. Basically ever since i can remember, sex has been more effort than pleasure. This is extremely annoying as it can take a lot of time before i can orgasm. This is with and without a condom. There is only one girl with which i have had regular intercourse with however, i have had sex with three other girls. Often when im having sex i realise that im thinking stuff completely unrelated, and i thought that when youre having sex it just feels good. However i often cant even recognise if im inside the girl or not...i.e we'll be having sex, i slip out and keep thrusting because i dont even realise. I thought there might be an issue with damaged nerves or something. So recently ive stopped masterbating(i used to do it daily) in the hope that this helps, however i have not been able to test out wether this helps or not. My other issue is that i can have a full strong erection just from lying next to my girlfriend, yet the second we get down to have sex, i cant get hard, and when i do its never rock solid. im not the nervous type, so ive put aside the possibility of it being an anxiety thing. Any other ideas? This is an extremely uncomfortable situation for me to be in as i really like this girl. Even when i can get hard enough, i often go soft rather soon (five to ten minutes later) and then it never gets as hard again. please let me know if you can help! thanks a million, by the way, with one of my exes i was fully hard without a problem, but like i said, with limited sensitivity, and since her i havent been able to stay fully hard with other girls.