Unable to have sexual intercourse

[lumos88]

I'm a 21-year-old virgin female. My boyfriend and I have attempted to have sex a couple of times, but we were unable. Although I have never had sex before, my hymen was torn long time ago after a mountain biking incident.

Anyway, the reason we're unable to have sex is because my boyfriend can't insert his penis. It really hurt even only when the head of his penis was pushing. I was sufficiently stimulated and my vaginal muscles, I believe, were quite relaxed. It is at the entrance of the vagina that I feel the pain. It is mostly at the perineum. We've tried a few times already and he has been really understanding, but I'm beginning to wonder if it is normal. Or shall I go and have it checked out at the doctor?

[alynnm]

If your a virgin then the skin inside will probably have to be stretched or even ripped a little bit. Try letting him  put his fingers in first. Or even if you could do that by yourself when you are alone. Each time you try to have sex your MIND is telling you that it will hurt. It may not hurt as bad as you actually think it does. But you EXPECT that it will hurt. Just experiment with yourself and even if it does hurt when he puts his penis in then you should still let him. The first time that most women have sex it hurts. It can be mild or severe. But if you can't stand the pain then go see a doc. And yes, make sure you are lubricated. Good luck!

[giraffe7983]

Try some K-Y jelly. Lubricate your vagina and his penis thoroughly and it should work fine.