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Why do I not get excited when I’m touching her?
Not rightly sure how to ask my question. Guess I'll start typing and when I get to it, I'll inform you. It's rather embarrassing and awkward. I'm 39-year-old married guy, who has a very unusual, but healthy sex life. I cannot stress this more. I was never sexually educated when I was younger. I used pornography as a sort of "guide to rule book".
Which has left me with many, unanswered questions, questions that anybody, without the exception of me of course, should know? Things like, what does foreplay involve besides kissing and caressing? How long am I expected to be down between my wife's legs? Why do I not get excited when I’m touching her, or why oral sex and manual stimulations' aka hand-**** are so fascinating to me? It is not related to my wife, she finds having intercourse enjoyable, I do not. So the problem does not apply to her.
My wife like so many has occasionally performed Fellatio. I have heard so many guys, reading from forums that is, how much enjoyment they have from this. I do not. Mainly because I can't keep an erection when she does this. Weird, right? Nor can I ejaculate when this occurs. What is the right response? All I do is stare at her like she is doing something wrong. I've tried several times to shut my eyes, you know like they do in "dirty movies", but still I can't find any enjoyment of this. I have told her how this has occurred prior to being married. Same problem. It's like some kind of sexual block. And no I have never been sexually abused. There are a lot of sexual activities I do not enjoy, for example, when she performs an oral sexual act by (allowing) me to insert my testicles into her mouth. It is painful. Also, whenever I get an erection, my penis will swell and begin to pulsate very tensely. When this happens, it's indescribably painful. Do you have every reason to believe that sexual blockage would cause this kind of issue? What has gotten into me? Thank you for the help.
Which has left me with many, unanswered questions, questions that anybody, without the exception of me of course, should know? Things like, what does foreplay involve besides kissing and caressing? How long am I expected to be down between my wife's legs? Why do I not get excited when I’m touching her, or why oral sex and manual stimulations' aka hand-**** are so fascinating to me? It is not related to my wife, she finds having intercourse enjoyable, I do not. So the problem does not apply to her.
My wife like so many has occasionally performed Fellatio. I have heard so many guys, reading from forums that is, how much enjoyment they have from this. I do not. Mainly because I can't keep an erection when she does this. Weird, right? Nor can I ejaculate when this occurs. What is the right response? All I do is stare at her like she is doing something wrong. I've tried several times to shut my eyes, you know like they do in "dirty movies", but still I can't find any enjoyment of this. I have told her how this has occurred prior to being married. Same problem. It's like some kind of sexual block. And no I have never been sexually abused. There are a lot of sexual activities I do not enjoy, for example, when she performs an oral sexual act by (allowing) me to insert my testicles into her mouth. It is painful. Also, whenever I get an erection, my penis will swell and begin to pulsate very tensely. When this happens, it's indescribably painful. Do you have every reason to believe that sexual blockage would cause this kind of issue? What has gotten into me? Thank you for the help.
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