female ejactulation..

[hamma58]

in the height of arousal, what would be the reason for a female to keep pulling back and not letting herself ejactulate?? would it be psychological??

[suelue31]

Like Flavoured, I also had the, "I am going to pee on my partner" feeling  A  few things need to be lined up to get past or through this, in my opinion.  I think a woman's age is important,  pretty sure 30's is what I hear is normal. I got past this when was 28. However after 30 it is on a new level. Masturbation, a woman being able to please herself and knowing her own body and what she likes. Last feeling safe with your partner, knowing he has a strong desire for you, is very important. Good luck.

[Flavoured]

I used to have that problem as well, and it was neither depression or psychological. It was simply that I was scared if I let go, I would pee on my partner, or make a mess, and my partner would be turned off. But when I met my husband, he made me comfortable enough, and trust him enough that letting go was ok, and it gives him joy and makes his satisfaction complete when I let go. So I let go. I would suggest you let her know that it's ok, and normal for her to let go. Tell her you don't mind (unless you do). bottom line; make her as comfortable and relaxed and whisper words of encouragement when she's about to get an orgasm. All the best. xx

[hamma58]

i guess the first one,  sufferer of depression.. not able to let go can't relax and cope with the feeling..

[iam1butterfly]

Possibly, psychological... fear, anxiety, Depression can cause mental obstacles and make us withhold or unable to "let go."
Possibly, physiological... not getting quite enough or the right kind of stimulation in the right place(s); or, the presence of some form of pain/ discomfort.

Is this a recent onset of "pulling back?"
Or, has ejaculation always been this way?