Thank you so much for your response. I know deep down everything you say is true and coming from an emphatic stranger really hits my core to the point of 'thankful' tears and encourages me to try and change. If it came from a close friend, I probably would've just said, 'yea, yea, yea!' and ignored it thinking they don't understand, but because you don't "know" me, I believe that you really do. Sounds twisted, but for some reason, that's how I feel. So, I'm grateful for posting my question and especially for you sharing your thoughts. ;-)
Don't feel alone; this seems to be a common problem. It often comes down to priorities. Many women are concentrating on their careers and/or children, but often overlook their husbands, even though they express great affection for their mates. A balance has to be found. Time has to be allotted for sexual relations, as actions often speak louder than words. Sex may not happen if one waits for the right mood. I cannot speak for your husband, but one of the worst things that can happen in marriage is if it becomes two friends living together. He may not be helping the situation with his "certain comments on the issue", as you put it. Sometimes, it feels awkward for a man to talk about sex with his wife, so biting humor comes out. He wants intimacy, but doesn't know how to get it even after 15 years of marriage, because of stepping on your toes, or putting you into one of your "moods". He cares for you and doesn't want to upset you, yet he wants to get naked with you and jump in the sack. It's like two ships passing in the foggy night--so close yet heading in opposite directions, not knowing how close each is to the other. The lack of sex often builds up in a marriage to where it becomes the elephant in the room. Once sexual relations are continued, it often seems that everyday living becomes better. It's like those people who never take a vacation--their productivity actually goes down. They think the more work they do, the longer they are on the clock, the better. However, it has been found that once a vacation is taken, people come back more refreshed and able to work better than before.