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I have a question reference sexual partners. My neice is turning 25 soon and has admitted to have had as many as 150 plus sexual experiences since she turned 16 95% when she was drinking. Is this a lot and would she be considered by some easy I'm conserned about stds
Thanks for your responses as It really does concern me but in the end it means that if I ask her about it she may cut me out of her life and as selfish as it may be she means the world to me so I may have to accept her promiscuity so to speak rather than lose her. I truly wish I hadn't heard her comment made while intoxicated. again thanks
I try not to judge peoples pasts but if I dated this women and fell in love and found out I was number 150 or more I would throw up and then throw her out of my life.
The risky, addictive and self-destructive behavior that you described is typical of someone who has a personality disorder. But, the one who needs to recognize and seek help for this is your niece.
Mention your concerns with her. If she's willing to admit that she has a problem
(either with the drinking or with the casual sex) then suggest counseling and offer to attend sessions with her if she's uncomfortable about going alone. If she says that it's none of your business; then, so be it. You would have done your duty as a responsible and caring uncle by broaching the topic..
If she's in denial, and finds nothing wrong with drunken promiscuity, then there's
not a whole lot that you can do... except hope and pray that by some miracle she reaches some kind of epiphany or awakening before something irreversible and
tragic happens.
Mention your concerns with her. If she's willing to admit that she has a problem
(either with the drinking or with the casual sex) then suggest counseling and offer to attend sessions with her if she's uncomfortable about going alone. If she says that it's none of your business; then, so be it. You would have done your duty as a responsible and caring uncle by broaching the topic..
If she's in denial, and finds nothing wrong with drunken promiscuity, then there's
not a whole lot that you can do... except hope and pray that by some miracle she reaches some kind of epiphany or awakening before something irreversible and
tragic happens.
That's the thing IS that a lot of partners to have had in that time as sex today is out of control. People talk about us and the sexual 60's we were tame by today's standards.But I am seriously concerned about her future as I said when shes ready to settle down withthat 1 person and how he will take this if he ever finds out. Her sister and I talked on the qt so to speak and she informed me that in the 12 days they were in mexico her sister had relations with 8 men.. And that she has rarely seen her sister with anyone while sober. What does that say and do I ask her about it or mind my business?
Yes that's a lot of partners.
There's probably something behind her actions. It may be that she's an alcoholic and has to drink and gets out of control or it could be something else. Also if she's drunk when she's having sex, I doubt that she's practising safe sex. She's probably using a hormonal contraceptive that's stopping a pregnancy but she's unlikely to insist on her partner using a condom in an enebriated state.
Or it is something else. And that could be a sexual addiction.
But it's not for you to judge. Does she perceive it as a problem?
There's probably something behind her actions. It may be that she's an alcoholic and has to drink and gets out of control or it could be something else. Also if she's drunk when she's having sex, I doubt that she's practising safe sex. She's probably using a hormonal contraceptive that's stopping a pregnancy but she's unlikely to insist on her partner using a condom in an enebriated state.
Or it is something else. And that could be a sexual addiction.
But it's not for you to judge. Does she perceive it as a problem?
I would look into her being abused as a child. A lot of times when a child is sexually abused they act out sexually when they become sexually active. 150 at age 25. That is like 1 every month.
No not really but by that admission I thought back to when I was her age thats 30 years ago and wondered what constitutes a[ forgive the word **** ] and by todays standards. And it matters how many as it would be the same as in my time, supose she meets someone she would like to spend her life with and he finds out that she had that many partners, she would stand a great chance of losing him as his ego might not be able to handle it. I am a firm beleiver that unless it impacts your present life the past should be private. but the fact remain that chances are good they will run into some that has been with her and he might overhear a conversation about her past and her reputaion so to speak. And that sort of thing male or female especially female is hard to keep private. I thought about what she said and I beleive she's had a lot more than 150 partners as apparently she's never gone more than 2 weeks without sex since she lost her virginity when she was 16 do the math. Would her and others like her m/f be addicted to sex?
i guess it really doesnt matter what anyone else thinks. Does she think its a lot or that she is easy? As long as she is practicing safe sex. She doesnt ever have to tell anyone that she is having a relationship with how many men she has been with ever. That is her business and only hers. Why are you worried about STDs? is she sick?
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