sexual orientation and ED

[topcom]

Hello,

Recently I’ve been having problems with my sex life to the state that I’m lost and don’t know what to do. I’m in my early twenties and a few weeks ago I was on a date with a woman and ended up back at hers. When we were out on the town everything was fine with everything in working order (maintained erection). However when we got back to hers I couldn’t maintain the erection to the result that we had to give up.  We tried again the next morning and still I couldn’t get an erection, which left me to this day feeling embarrassed and have low self esteem.
I don’t understand why this happened as I’ve had sexual partners before and nothing like this has happened.

Also I’ve been having an obscure sex drive with that’s left me feeling ashamed with myself. For some unknown reason I’ve never been able to masturbate over woman I’ve been attracted to, even during adolesence. This could be that my confidence with myself  attracting such women is small. When I masturbate it’s over women I’m not attracted to and would be embarrassed to admit in fancying (shallow I know), and porn doesn’t usually turn me on. However I viewed a porn video on the Internet of two women maphrodites and I was turned on to the state that I masturbated over it. I feel totally ashamed of myself as I consider such porn repulsive. I’m not gay and have never been turned on by such things, but I’m left feeling confused and isolated. Is it normal for heterosexuals to watch such video content?

Could such problems be a result of over masturbation?


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[thebetrayedone]

For what its worth, I can personally say that I've been bi-curious and have had sexual experience with transgenders ... and I'm happily married to a wonderful woman now.  Only my wife knows of this and my friends and colleagues would swear that I would be the most hetero guy they know and "women love me" as my brother said.  Little do they know ;)

what you find attractive is all part of the process of growing up.  My mother, for instance, never fully embraced her bisexuality until she was well into her 30s and wishes she had realized it earlier.  Do not question anything, just "go with the flow" so to speak.  If you're gay, you're gay.  If you're bi, you're bi, and so on.  

I second the comment about masturbating too much.  Try just once a day.  You're far from reaching sexual maturity, but everyone is different.

[topcom]

thanks mjbrown that's a weight of my mind, i know there is nothing wrong being gay i just couldn't help feel slightly confused. i guess i'm just over analysing and comparing myself to others that i consider 'normal'.

Thanks again!

[mjbrown]

First, there is nothing wrong with being gay - even if you know that you are not. Second, sexuality is rarely a matter of black and white. Few people are exclusively homosexual or heterosexual - we are all somewhere in between (with most people on the heterosexual side). Few people will admit it, but many studies have shown that most heterosexuals have had some sort of same-sex experience, or at least thought about having one. It is normal to be curious. I have straight friends who admit to watching gay porn because they were curious - though they've never been with a guy or ever would be. And transexual porn is a huge industry - targeted at straight men. Humans are sexual creatures, and anything new is likely to peak our interest. So long as you are not hurting anybody, do what you enjoy, and don't worry so much about labels. Over-masturbation is not likely the cause of your ED. However, the worry you have over questioning you sexual preferences might be.

All the best..