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I had a gf and we've been dating for a couple of months. We were completely into each other and cared alot about each other until one day we decided to have sex. She had a car accident and on the same day we decided to do it. She came out of the car accident with just some neck pain but she was fine. After having intercourse she changed completely and has been avoiding me. Actually she wanted to some time alone, She tells me she is confused and feels that there was a disconnection between us when we had sex and that she didnt feel much. I would like to know why did this happen? I mean was it that my penis was no sufficient or maybe it was small ? i have a 6 inch penis but girth size around a 3.. could my size of penis affected the way she felt about me? She has baggage from her last relationship and she only has had one bf in her life.what do i do? I mean i feel something like this will lead to breaking up. I am just so confused can anyone give me some insight on this situation?
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The same thing happen to me when I was a young man with my girlfriend. Some women go through a lot of emotional things when they have sex (especially if it is their first time). This is why people should wait until they are old enough to deal with the drama. I don't think she means your penis size when she says she did not feel anything. I am think she means emotionally. If I were you, I would give her space and just be friend. You really do not know this will play out, but stay cool and calm.
i mean she really wanted it. She said she didnt feel it like.. she was asking me if it was tight and she was telling me that she didnt feel so tight. I feel that hitman's advice makes sense i think i will just want to be alone because i have been emotionally hurt by this and i feel that being friends with her will bring some type of closure. I dont feel the same for her anymore ever since she has give me the space treatment and I believe its too early in the relationship to have so many problems.
Sometimes women feel like the guy only wants them for sex. Maybe something about your reaction (I would not have suggested going through with the plan to have sex on the same day she was in a car accident) made her feel like you mostly just want sex and don't care about her as a person. I'm SURE she felt your penis, she was not talking about that. She was saying she didn't get the erotic thrill and/or orgasm she expected. Maybe she had built this up in her mind that it was going to be so great and it couldn't live up. Maybe she began to wonder in the middle of things why she was having sex when she also had whiplash, (and on top of that, there you were enjoying it and not seeming to care). Who knows. But anyway, hitman's advice is great, stay calm, be supportive and act like the same loving guy you were before, and she should slowly relax.
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