Really???
..... It better work because it if doesn't this poor child will have even deeper emotional problems...
My 14yo daughter is afraid to fall asleep and sleep in her own room. For about 2 weeks she slept on an air mattress in the living room. She is in counseling and yesterday we had our appointment with a child/adolescent psychiatrist. He put her on Zoloft.
Her problem is that she had been living with her father and brother in Australia while I was here in the USA (long story for another time). She was constantly subjected to phsyical and emotional abuse, which I am now finding out how bd it really was, and believe me I was not happy.
It took her boyfriend to tell her she needs to sleep in her room again for her to listen. She says that something touches her feet in the middle of night and is convinced that there are spirits living in her closet.. we now close that door and barricade it.
Please seek professional help for your daughter, if you leave it too long, the behavioral changes will be extremely difficult.
Take Care
HI, I have just posted a similar problem with my 11 year daughter who now takes to sleeping on the floor next to us! i cannot dicipline her and cannot give in as neither works! she is obviously scared but nothing is bothering her at school as i have sat and talked to her. we are both sleep deprived and i am thinking of just leting her sleep on the floor if this helps...
I would put the lock on the guest room door and also take her to a counselor to find out why all of a sudden she doesn't like to sleep alone and must have all the lights on. That is not energy efficient and costs a lot of money, also. You have to find out why she's afraid after years of sleeping alone in the dark. Something else is going on.
Hi, at this age she is old enough to know that she will miss you as days pass on , the love and comfort she gets from you as her mother, may be due to some horrifying incident or a dream she has gone through sometime she feels insecured and needs to be with you, speak with her the reason what she feels for lights to be on while sleeping. you can consult you family physician and also a behavior therapist who can help you.
hi,
yes i think she is afraid of sleeping in the dark and the fact that she comes to your room at night indicates that she is looking for some support and comfort from you. Please sit down and talk to her as to what is troubling her.
Hi,
You definitely need to consult her pediatrician and if he/she advises and thinks it appropriate a child psychologist too. Is your daughter having any troulbles at school or with her friends- related to the studies or peer pressure or the kind of campany she keeps. She could have formed a fear to sleeping alone or sleeping in the dark. You need to sit and talk with her in detail what seems to be the issue and why does she need the lights on. Also discuss with her any problems she might be facing with friends or school. Has she been watching a lot of television or any of those scary/ terror/ thriller movies on her own or with her friends that could possibly expain this?
No one can function well without adequate sleep. I would lock the door so she couldn't get in, frankly. It may seem extreme but I don't believe it is with a 12 year old, a little kid, maybe. Your husband would be available to her if she needed an adult for an emergency, plus you would be also after you unlock your door. She is certainly old enough to know that you need your sleep, and it must be a behavioral issue of some sort. Perhaps you could speak with her pediatrician.