Need some advice

[babyblue2449]

I havent had a cig since thursday night, and without any help. Yeppie for me!! How do i get my spouse to understand that i need to be left alone? I can still function and be normal, but he keeps stressing me out. I almost grabed a smoke!!!! i dont want to start up again. Any advice on how to get rid of the stress??? Or how to deal with my spouse??

[kathyjo]

lol.....I locked myself in my bedroom and didn't let anyone near me : )
That's not always practical and I sure don't know what to suggest other then explaining what you are feeling and how you need him to be more sympathetic........ I can and will say this. Sometimes we look for a reason to pick up a smoke, not saying that it's what you are doing. It's just that we can sabatoge our quits by looking for reasons or blame.

Just try to keep to yourself, take some nice deep breathes, preferably of fresh air, take some walks to work off the stress and read articles at whyquitdotcom. Don't give into the temptations......the first 3 days are the roughest. 72 hours for the nictine to leave your bloodstream so it's all mental from here on in.
Hang in there!
Kathy Jo

[babyblue2449]

I would love to take a walk but i had surgery on friday and cant do much. Other than sit on my rear. I didnt even think about smokin until my spouse started his nit-picking. Then there is the bored issue. I am trying to do other things, but since i have to sit still for awhile it gets tricky.

[kathyjo]

Write! Compose letter to the editor, hate mail to annoying people, love letters to hubby for when you like him again, whatever it takes to occupy your hands and mind......think about a healthy you and how you will get your life back, take charge of your life after letting cigarettes lead you around by the nose (and mouth).
You are on your way to a brand new you and you deserve to have it be the very best "you."
Be strong, be in charge : )
Good luck and don't give in!

Kathy Jo

[elwoodsf]

Is your husband supportive of your quit? If so, do what I do. I tell mine to leave me alone or I'm going to the store LOL. Actually, I go to my room and listen to a stress relief CD. That helps. It is by Travis Fox. I have a hard time sitting still so reading is out. I do like crosswords and Suduko. That keeps my brain and hands busy. I am on the patch. I'm almost done with them. I need to be on the patch or dealth would occur in my house be it kids, hubby or animals. I feel so much better and posting on this forum helps me to keep honest with myself. I've been through the shame of starting again all too many times and don't want to go there again.

I'm proud of you and your new life as a non-smoker!

Your doing a great job just by joining the ranks of non-smokers.

Keep strong ~ El

[babyblue2449]

I know the first 72hrs are the hardest. But for me they were the easiest. I didnt want one then, but now i do.  GRRRR this is frustrating.

[kathyjo]

Go view the "motivation" articles at whyquitdotcom!
Do not give in......5 days under your belt! It sure would be a shame to lose them. Have you ever gone for that long a period without one? Before my quit I couldn't go a few hours without one. All of the vacations I didn't take, all of the movies I didn't see, all of the car trips I didn't take, all because of cigarettes!!!
Don't give in to an urge, instead take a deep breathe and focus on something else.
An urge only lasts about 60 sec. so if you can get yourself through that, then you will be able to handle it. You can do it! You are in control, remember that!
Hang in there : )

[islandbeth]

Baby Blue, print something off of the internet where it talks about how FRIGGING HARD it is to quit smoking, and all of the trauma, and withdrawal symptoms, ie: irritability, impatience, trouble concentrating, difficult focusing, fatigue, etc, etc and hand it to him. Or make a flashcard and flash it at him every time he gets irritating. Make him maintain complete and utter silence with you whenever he gets on your nerves. Trust me, part of it is probably him, but a lot of it is your reponse... I am way more irritable now at thngs that might have bugged me before, but that I would let go before I quit smoking.

I recently quit after 22 years, and I was up to two packs a day when I quit. I just burst into tears on day four because it suddenly struck me that I couldn't smoke EVER AGAIN. And my joints ache and I get dizzy and it *****!! If you need a buddy to complain to, feel free to email me. :)

[elwoodsf]

Hey, I had a night from hell yesterday. Nicotine is a very powerful drug. You are coming of a drug that is likened to Heroin. When I got home, yesterday I locked myself up in my room. I never smoked in my room so I have no associations with it. Put yourself in "time out" LOL. Keep posting, go to whyquit.com. Fill out a quit plan. Don't give into the monster sitting on your shoulder dictating to you that you need to smoke. I know its difficult. I've tried many times to quit yet I know that stress will lead me right back to the store. Would it help to take your focus off of him for awhile? Stop allowing your mind to dwell on his shortcomings. Eat. Whatever it takes. I'm proud that you have made it this far. You go girl. Are you using the patch, gum or anything else? I think I remember you stating that you are going cold turkey. Either way - keep in mind that this drug will "talk" you into your next smoke. This drug will keep knocking on your door, taunt you. In no time at all, it will be over. The monster will leave.

I really do feel for you. Hang in there my partner in quitting. Take Care ~ El