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Im 18 years old with a beautiful home with my boyfriend, we been trying to get pregnant for almost 6 months now i been to a doctors but they said wait a little longer then come back, well i have really irregular periods they are all over the place they last for 5 to 6 days and 3 to 4 days and sometimes they are a full regular period that lasts up to 7 days and the time apart are like 22 days 24 days and 27 days to 33 days i have no idea when im suppose to ovulate please help.. thank you.
That's exactly what I was thinking mom. I wonder what they will think at age 21 or 25 or 30, or even 35 like ME! So old! :) I never said don't have a kid. I said from what I have witnessed, and lived through, it is a wise choice to wait until later in life to bring a baby into this world.
My daughter lboogie is just trying to give you advice, and it is extremely good advice. She is trying to tell you how very hard it is to raise a child. It is expensive, it is very time consuming. If just some of the young girls here would read what we've written and think, maybe I should wait, maybe I should get and education, get married, have a home, a car, insurance, money in the bank. It would be great. My daughter is right. ALL of the teen girls we know that are pregnant or have children are on assistance and that comes out of the taxes we pay. So, we feel like we have a right to say something because our money is being used to raise these children. It really boils down to us caring about these children and what kind of life they're going to have. I won't because you are set on having a baby. I would love to see you print these comments out though and in a year or so, when ever you do have a baby, take them out and read them.
Ummm Ok? come on i was looking for some answers and your telling me not to get pregnant. TF? im 18 years old my boyfriend is 20 i am ready to be a mother.. no doubt about that... nobody can change my mind this is what i want i know what im getting into... sooo dont try to talk me out of it.
With age comes life experience, and responsibility. Age is a huge factor if you are not even grown enough to be out on your own which the one girl says she is not. Both still smoke. A 17 or 18 year old that cannot even give up smoking, (which I did after smoking for 20 years, on my own) is a perfect indication that they have work to do on themselves, first. Like I said, you got your own place, a solid career, money in the bank, a place with your name on it, be my guest, have at it. Still living at home, smoking, not able to commit to a relationship for life? You are kidding yourself if you think this will be easy. Age IS a factor. I was a pretty smart cookie at 18, but I am like freaking Yoda at 35 with all I have lived through, dealt with and witnessed. Ask my mom. At 18, she had a 2 year old (me), a husband (celebrating 36 years of marriage next month), a house, a car, help in the form of a 'safe' babysitter' with my grandma and aunt, and life was STILL a struggle! That's probably because we took no help from the government. Any of you ladies on here can say that? That you are, or plan, to do this without any assistance? Than, again, AGE IS RELEVANT!
I don't understand this fascination with making babies. Do you all have nothing else to do with your lives? I mean that very sincerely. What else to you plan to do with your life and what kind of person do you expect your child to be? I can see why my mom gets so infuriated being on these boards feeling like she is talking to a brick wall. She lived it, and I am the walking talking proof! Just because YOU want it, don't think the kid is going to be happy that you drug it into this world before the right time. Just because you BELIEVE something, it does not make it so. Okay? My beliefs have changed radically over the years, but then again I am a very introspective, insightful person who is always trying to learn and be a better person. I am just ashamed at the generation that is so representative of mediocrity. Kids that aren't very bright, having kids that likewise will not be very bright more than likely. I see it as the dumbing down of the world really, not just America. Read some statistics. The more educated you are, the less likely you are to have a child at a young age which almost always results in a follow up kid right behind that one. You are more likely to live in poverty and need government assistance if you have a child at a young age. Educated people all over the world are holding off on having kids till later in life because they are in the 'REAL' world where they have to pay for everything themselves and they see how unaffordable it is to feed another mouth. They are choosing to have only one child, or like me, none at all. I just think it is the most selfish thing to put your own wants and needs (those of an 18 year old no less!) ahead of that of a human being that could have a better life if you all could just relax and find something productive to do with your time until nature takes it's course. What if you don't have a baby? Then what? Is that the end of the world? Is that all you have to offer? You girls seem bent on limiting yourselves and your children's futures, but you just don't see it that way. Do you know how many woman die in childbirth across the world? Watch a documentary called "Half the Sky", see how it is all over the planet and then tell me about your first world problems of not being able to conceive at 18 freaking years old. I shake my head because Americans are so into themselves. LittleGirl18, you said your boyfriend wants to talk about getting married? There you have it. Someone in the situation sees that you don't just 'make' babies, you 'raise families'. Sorry to sound so hostile but I've been on birth control for 20 years and I'll never stop advocating for those of us who had it rough because our parents were too d*mn young!
I don't understand this fascination with making babies. Do you all have nothing else to do with your lives? I mean that very sincerely. What else to you plan to do with your life and what kind of person do you expect your child to be? I can see why my mom gets so infuriated being on these boards feeling like she is talking to a brick wall. She lived it, and I am the walking talking proof! Just because YOU want it, don't think the kid is going to be happy that you drug it into this world before the right time. Just because you BELIEVE something, it does not make it so. Okay? My beliefs have changed radically over the years, but then again I am a very introspective, insightful person who is always trying to learn and be a better person. I am just ashamed at the generation that is so representative of mediocrity. Kids that aren't very bright, having kids that likewise will not be very bright more than likely. I see it as the dumbing down of the world really, not just America. Read some statistics. The more educated you are, the less likely you are to have a child at a young age which almost always results in a follow up kid right behind that one. You are more likely to live in poverty and need government assistance if you have a child at a young age. Educated people all over the world are holding off on having kids till later in life because they are in the 'REAL' world where they have to pay for everything themselves and they see how unaffordable it is to feed another mouth. They are choosing to have only one child, or like me, none at all. I just think it is the most selfish thing to put your own wants and needs (those of an 18 year old no less!) ahead of that of a human being that could have a better life if you all could just relax and find something productive to do with your time until nature takes it's course. What if you don't have a baby? Then what? Is that the end of the world? Is that all you have to offer? You girls seem bent on limiting yourselves and your children's futures, but you just don't see it that way. Do you know how many woman die in childbirth across the world? Watch a documentary called "Half the Sky", see how it is all over the planet and then tell me about your first world problems of not being able to conceive at 18 freaking years old. I shake my head because Americans are so into themselves. LittleGirl18, you said your boyfriend wants to talk about getting married? There you have it. Someone in the situation sees that you don't just 'make' babies, you 'raise families'. Sorry to sound so hostile but I've been on birth control for 20 years and I'll never stop advocating for those of us who had it rough because our parents were too d*mn young!
I honestly dont see age as a factor if yu truly believe yu are ready....I am only 18 and pregnant with my first and im beyond ready, although I am married I dont see that as being relevant....but like others have said just let it happen...it took me over a year and it happened the one month I sincerely was not trying
Dont give up it will happen in its own time
Dont give up it will happen in its own time
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