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being preganant at 13 isnt easy...
the amount of grief people give me for being pregnant at 13 is ridiculous ... oh my... nearly halfway now anyway and so glad i went against what everyone said and kept my little princess...
Hi everyone -
Please understand that we are a support site. This doesn't mean you have to sugar coat anything, but it does mean that we are not an appropriate forum to debate how or why teens are having sex at young ages.
Thanks,
Emily
Please understand that we are a support site. This doesn't mean you have to sugar coat anything, but it does mean that we are not an appropriate forum to debate how or why teens are having sex at young ages.
Thanks,
Emily
She came here for advice and support and that's what she is getting. No one should sugar coat her situation. It's not going to be easy having a baby at her age. I'm not seeing any rude comments. She's only 13 years old and needs to know the reality of having a baby at such a young age. She's getting a lot of support and advice. By the way, any member can go to any forum they want to comment on a post.
Some of y'all are being a little rude. She is 13. Still a teenager.... on the teen pregnancy forum. If your going to comment about how young she is then you really shouldnt be on the teen forum. That being said hun just cause your 13 doesn't mean you can't make money. You can always baby sit,do yard work, or even clean houses around town for extra money. Your going to need your.parents still so realize they will become your best friends and school will never be the same. You won't care about the gossip and normal high school bs. She will make you grow up so fast and for everyone telling you you can't.....prove them wrong
At 13 there is no way you can take care of a baby on your own. It's not legal for you to work, you can't have a drivers license, you have no money of your own. People are just concerned about you and this baby. It is the hardest job you will ever have.
I'm so sorry for what happened and I've read your story. I don't understand why this guy was not reported. He should pay for what he did.
Stay in school, like everyone is telling you to do. Education is so very important. Maybe when you're 16 you can get a part time job and your drivers license. Take parenting classes because they will help so much.
I'm so sorry for what happened and I've read your story. I don't understand why this guy was not reported. He should pay for what he did.
Stay in school, like everyone is telling you to do. Education is so very important. Maybe when you're 16 you can get a part time job and your drivers license. Take parenting classes because they will help so much.
There were a lot of spelling and grammer errors in my last post lol sorry just had a lot to get out
God bless u sweetie!!! Don't ever let anyone get u down. What happened wasn't ur fault and u being women enough to give the baby a chance is commendable to say the ving a baby young doesn't end ur life it sloes things down but ull have a precious little hand to hold along the way. The truth is u and ur daughter will have an unexplainable bond. Ur going to do a lot of growing up together and ull baby closer me and my daughter are I had her at 16. As far as the daddy issue goes don't sweat it one day a guy is going to come along and sweep u off ur feet and love u and ur baby girl. That's what happened to me and today im 22 married to an amazing man and couldn't be happier. Stay positive and don't let the negativity get at u. Yes things are going to be harder bc of your age but ull be fine!!!
Sorry that happened but if I was raped and got pregnant I would keep that baby.its your choice.
Momma2bee if you had followed this girls story at all then you would understand she is getting so much support because of the way her baby was conceived.
At 13 she didn't just hook up with some guy at a party and make a mistake. This young, innocent girl was raped. And she got pregnant as a result of that.
Most grown women would struggle with what was the right thing to do in that situation. I know myself that I would face endless inner turmoil. So yes, she deserves a hell of a lot of respect and support. This is a situation I would never wish on anybody.
That being said, I am so glad that you have got so much support Nic435. You will probably need some counselling to help you deal with what happened. And when you do eventually tell your child the details of his/her conception then he/she may also need some counselling. But with the support of your parents and friends you will be a great mother and a great role model.
I hope you decided to press charges also against the man who did this to you. If he denies it the judge will order a dna test when your baby is born.
I wish you the best of luck. You really are an amazing young woman.
At 13 she didn't just hook up with some guy at a party and make a mistake. This young, innocent girl was raped. And she got pregnant as a result of that.
Most grown women would struggle with what was the right thing to do in that situation. I know myself that I would face endless inner turmoil. So yes, she deserves a hell of a lot of respect and support. This is a situation I would never wish on anybody.
That being said, I am so glad that you have got so much support Nic435. You will probably need some counselling to help you deal with what happened. And when you do eventually tell your child the details of his/her conception then he/she may also need some counselling. But with the support of your parents and friends you will be a great mother and a great role model.
I hope you decided to press charges also against the man who did this to you. If he denies it the judge will order a dna test when your baby is born.
I wish you the best of luck. You really are an amazing young woman.
Im.not trying to bash but how EXACTLY is a 13 yea. Old planning on takin care of a baby? Sjes getting too much credit. She can NOT literally do anything but school at her age. Likely her parents, or who ever she lives with should get all of the support and good wishes.
I'm so glad to see all the positive and supportive comments on here. That's what this forum is about and how it should always be. With that said, I'm so glad you have stepped up and taken on the responsibility of raising this child. About the father, many many children grow up without on parent or the other, sometimes both and turn out just fine. My husband was raised by his grandmother and he is wonderful. You may meet someone in a few years and later end up married to him and he may choose to step in and be a father figure to your daughter. You are an amazing young lady and I respect you for what your doing. Stay in school and once you graduate, go to college. Parenthood is a hard journey but a wonderful one. Congrats momma!
Prove everyone wrong! People tend to talk down on teen moms, yes you are very young. I had my first at 16 thinking I was young. Im 21 now on my second* But age doesn't define a good mother. You see 30 year old women who mistreat & get cps cases. Just realize your a mature mommy now and everything you do reflects on you as a parent and you'll be judged either way. So give people nothing but good things to say other than your age. It's your business I'm glad you kept your baby! Someone will always have an opinion but finish school & Make a future for yalls selfs. Good luck & congratulations on mother hood.
Your strong for making a decision like this especially for what your situation is. Just keep up that positive attitude and kudos to whoever you have as a support system. Dnt let negative ppl get you down and as fas as you all being in the same school and riding the same bus....umm ok I'm sure by the time your little girl is even old enough to be on a bus you'll be walking across the stage with your hs diploma saying I did it!!
*by the time she was my age... *all the young mothers who give all for their child.
I think its all about maturity. Cause I'm 20, pregnant with my 1st. And my birth mother keeps saying that I'm too young. Mind you she had me at the age of 16 and had 3 kids by the time she for to my age. But she's always hated me just because I'm a child she dididn't plan on having. & I'm actually in a better place than her right now. I live on my own. Own car, job and am engaged to my child's father. And I have a have a friend who had a child at 13. That baby made her so mature. She completed school and got a job & moved out her parents house by the age of 17. Before the baby she always got into fights and didn't plan on finishing school. I'm proud of the young mothers who give there all doe the child. She's my inspiration. I know that you'll be the best mother that you can be & just know that no matter what you do not everyone will like you or what you're doing. Its life you just gotta keep doing you. :-)
I'm 14 and 38 weeks Thursday. My Son wasn't planned but I decided to keep him it's not his fault. the father and his family are very supportive and so is mine I'm looking forward to holding him in 2 weeks or less. Congratulations wish you the best for you and you unborn. :)
Your age has nothing to do with if youll be a good or bad mom. That being said 13 is really young in our society and people have a tough time wrapping their heads around why your having sex so young instead of focusing on school. Its sad but thats the society we live in and all you can do is ignore peoplr and prove to them youll be an amazing mom
Congratulations yu can.do it keep ya head up mama you'll do great an be a great mother to your princess
U guys will probably be in school k-12 together. Depending on ur town possibly same bus. Good luck to u and your parents. Or whom ever is takin care financially of u both.
Im 15 and pregnant with my son nd it was a planned pregnancy and my boyfriend has enough to support us since hes a little older honestly ppl are gunna judge no matter wat if u where to get an abortion oh she couldn't even be responsible for her actions but good thing u kept ur little baby:) good luck!:) babies are a gift and shouldn't be frowned upon sad that some ppl do
Just continue to stay positive. I applaud you for looking at a bad situation with an open heart and not letting it affect you in a negative way! Use those ignorant comments and nasty looks that you may get as motivation to not only be the best mother you can be, but also the best woman you can be. I'm not sure if you are spiritual or religious but just to share one of my favorite scriptures with you "Blessed is the one who perseveres under trial because having stood the test, that person will receive the crown of life that the Lord has promised to those who love him." James 1:12. Keep your heart and your mind in the right place you will be able to do anything! Stay strong!!
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