Considering Concieving

[alissahann18]

Me and my fiancee are getting our first place next summer and I'm considering conceiving. I feel ready for a baby, but I'm not sure. I have a job, I'm getting a place, a supportive family, and both my fiancee and I are young but prepared. Any advice?

[remar]

I'm so glad to hear this. You are a very responsible and smart young woman who will make a great mother one day because you already care about this future child.
I hear so many girls say they want a baby right now when they have no job, no education, no money, no stable relationship. To me, it's selfish. You always need to put the child first and make sure they're going to have the best life possible.
You're doing that and I could'nt be more proud of you.

[alissahann18]

Thanks for the advice!!! :) I am waiting. I'm gonna make sure I am financially and emotional secure with a stable environment to bring the baby into.

[remar]

I read some of your other comments and it seems that you may have a problem with depression. Having a baby will not help this. It can actually make things much worse. I was a teen mother and I was also married. Taking care of my daughter was the hardest thing I've ever done.
Why don't you think about waiting. You will be starting college soon and moving in with your boyfriend next year. Enjoy your young life. Once you have a baby your life is not your own any more. Would'nt it be nice to have an education, own your own home, have money in the bank, have a beautiful wedding and then think about having a baby? Being a mother is such a wonderful thing, when you are truly ready for it.

[Dr. Kokil Mathur]

It would be always better if you could wait for 2-3 years and consolidate your job and finances before planning a baby.

[Dr. Kokil Mathur]

Hi!
Having a baby is a huge responsibility. So consider your finances, how you will manage both your job and baby, whether you can manage in case you have to give up your job, is your partner ready for the responsibility. Jointly discuss all aspects before going ahead. Take care!

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