WHAT TO DO??!!

[shonny12]

ME AND MY BOYFRIEND HAD PLANNED TO HAVE A BABY. IM ONLY 16 'BUT I KNOW IM READY TO HAVE A BABY.
SO ON THE 24 OF MAY HE EJACULATED IN ME.
I HAD TOOK A TEST 3 DAYS AFTER BUT IT CAME OUT NEG. I KNEW I TOOK IT TO EARLY
BUT I COULDNT WAIT.
I KNOW I AM ABLE TO HAVE BABYS BUT HOW LONG SHOULD I WAIT??
ITS KILLING ME!!!!

[LeighAlexsandra]

Lots of these people are right.. I'm 19 and i have my first kid.. I also live with the father who is older and have my own house.... Now its hard enough for us sometimes... although my son is my life i love him with all my heart... But babys cost money... And mine isnt even that old yet he's almost 4 months and its already buying powderd milk every week.. Diapers... Diaper bags...wipes... and what about all the furniture for a baby... Crib, changing table, toys, sooo on ... Now your 16... still young (i'm not judging you) you have a life ahead of you... How old is your boyfriend... can you even be sure its the man that you want too spend your life with... Do you have a place together, does he work? Do you still live at home? and if you do, do you think your parents will help you out? because i've seen many a times parents say go!! ... Theres lots of things too think of...now if you are pregnant then good luck, and have a healthy pregnancy... But if your not then wait, wait at least till your older and have your own place.. and know that the person your with is the love of your life... even if it may seem that at your age... Belive me its rare that young...also pregnancy isnt that easy.. may seem easy to begin with but well in my experince... it was hard on the body and on the mind....well anyway its your choice on what you do like i said i'm not judging you... Just please think a little bit of what each person has said here.... and think again if you really truley think your ready... Because a baby is for life... Its not a toy and once the baby is here... Its here forever and its forever our job too be a parent! a 24 hour a day job

[KeyD]

And who is going to support you and ur baby? What about finishing school? Have you thought about any plans for your future and how you're going to accomplish them? Where do you live? With your parents? Because I can't imagine any parent would support the idea of their 16 year old daughter wanting to give up her live to have a baby at such a young age. When you have a child do you want them to willing have a baby at ur age? There is far more to taking care of a baby then you could of possibly thought of.

[penswriter]

no matter how ready you THINK you are...you're not. even adults are never fully prepared for their child. what they expect and think will happen rarely ever does. i was 23 when i got pregnant with my boys...i THOUGHT i was ready for it. i'd been reading books, asking the right questions, eating the right foods...boy was i WRONG. the early parts of my pregnancy were a piece of cake. then came the 3rd trimester....then labor. then...actual motherhood. my dh and i went from a carefree couple only having to worry about each other to parents with two newborns. in the past 2 years i can count on ONE hand how many times we have gone out without the kids.

it would be a very wise decision to wait until you're graduated from high school, if you plan on going to college (which i advise...) graduating from college, get financially stable, married (if that's your plan) and a house before getting down to the baby making. it takes time but you'll be so much happier and less stressed out than if you do it now. there is SO  SO SO much you have to think about. how are you going to support yourself? a baby? daycare? (i'm lucky to be a sahm...our daycare would have cost $2400/month for our two boys) insurance? a house/apartment? furniture? baby necessities? (which they need A LOT!!!!) food?....having a baby isn't about just loving it...but also being able to provide the best life and future for him/her. consider that before making your final decision.

[JadedSweetheart]

I got pregnant when I was 14.  I thought I would be able to do all the things I did before and that it would be great.  I really did it to get out of my house because my mother was so overbearing and has issues.  The truth was that it made me have to stay at the house more, when my friends were able to start going out.  I wish I would have decided to move in with my grandparents instead.  
You don't have to listen to what Shay and I tell you, and you don't have to believe us when we tell you how hard it is, but it is HARD.  People judge you, are mean to you because you're young and pregnant.  It's really not something I would wish on anyone.
Good luck with everything if you are pregnant, and feel free to private message me if you want to talk about anything.   My son is now a handsome almost 13 year old, but if I had it to do over again, I would have waited.

[AnnieBrooke]

How long should you wait to have a baby, if you are 16?  I'd say about six years.  Get your life together, first.  Marriage or a very permanent relationship, jobs in place, child-care plans in place, house or apartment all taken care of, budget on track, insurance in place.  That's a lot to get done in 6 years, but you can do it I am sure.  It is a lot easier to do all of that in six years without a baby in tow than with a baby in tow.

[jrobertson20]

I replied to your other post but you need to wait until you are due for your period to test.  Testing sooner will keep giving you negatives and they may not be truly negative.

[Gemz1986]

you should wait till 2 weeks after your missed period to do a test as it usually comes back negative before then even if you are pregnant