exteame bad emotional news effect on pg

[Cherie762]

Hi friends, something really horrible happened today, My darling little Hollys best friends, boyfriend commited suicide. The friend, is beside herself because the young boy 17, killed himself because she (Hollys gf) broke up witth the boy, Hollys feeling  some guilt as she advised her friend to dump this boy he was very possessive,,,my question how concerned should I be about very extreme emotional upset be on Hollys pregnancy. I told her, as well as my son and her Dad , we all feel she should not go to the funeral, she did not know the boy very well, she is just distraught at the whole idea and very empathetic for her friend and they both feel guilty, I talked long m they are starting to "get : that there must have been more to it,,,and I really am concerned for her,,,I tolde her to rest and made her eat a bit,,,any more advise?

[heatherlynn22]

stressing could put affect her a bit. just try to keep her relaxed. was the reason for the break up a good one? if it was...than just remind her she was thinking about her friend and the boy didn't have to do what he did. that was his decision and she was NOT responsible for his actions. she was only looking out for her friend and her well being. maybe seeing a counselor or therapist could help. s/he might be able to shed more light on the subject and help her come to terms that it was NOT her fault that this boy ended his own life.

[Kimberlee_20]

One of my best friends committed suicide in the first trimester of my pregnancy, she had a 1 year old daughter, and she did it while she was drunk. She asked me to go to a party with her that night, but being pregnant I obviously said no, so I felt extremely guilty for it, although I knew it wasn't my fault. My baby is completely healthy, and trust me, I was a WRECK for WEEKS. Emotional stress isn't good for the baby obviously, but there's really nothing anyone can do to make her change the way she feels, anyone in her position would. Maybe going to the funeral will help her have some closure. I went to my friends, and my doctor advised me to, just so I could get closure on the situation. I wouldn't be too worried about it harming the baby, I've went through HELL my entire pregnancy, and my baby has been fine, but I'm sure not everyone has been as lucky. Just make sure she's drinking lots of fluids and staying hydrated, taking her vitamins, and eating good, and I think she'll be okay. You could talk to her doctor about this situation and they could help her more as to what she should do.

[nikkieh]

omg my heart goes out to you and your friend. I think that right now the most important thing you can do for Holly is to give her all your love and support. She will need it. I had a friend commit suicde a while back and its a hard ordeal. She needs closure and not going to the funeral may not give her the closure that she needs. Do you htink there is a way that maybe if she decides to go, you could go wiht her to give her your support and a shoulder to lean on?

[Cherie762]

thankyou so much. gosh I am sad that the two of you above experienced the same thing. Hollys a bit better now, I did talk alot and she understands its never anyones fault when someone takes their own life. the boy had lots of issues that are now comming to light, he was very possesive of his girlfirend, even picked out her outfits everyday..a major reason Hollys friend wanted out of the relationship

[Kimberlee_20]

And she did the right thing, as much as it may seem like her dumping him was the only reason he killed himself, I'm SURE it wasn't. What teenager would kill themselves, end their life completely over something such as a teenage romance. There were definitely more issues than that. She would have ended up in a very abusive (mentally and physically) relationship, and Holly did the right thing getting her friend out of that enviornment. It may seem like a huge tragedy now, and for a while to come, but eventually this tragedy will pass, and you just need to let her know it can only get better now.