How Much Testosterone is Too Much

[scottsdaleprincess]

Hi, my husband has been on testosterone injections for two years. It has been a pure living hell. The doctors have experimented with him with different levels. He is currently taking 50mg of the testosterone injections twice a week. His total testosterone as of the last lab draw was 750 on the third day. The shots have completely changed his personality, like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. He is now really moody and mean and this is not who he truly is. It has been a horrible roller coaster ride. He is going back to the doctor this week to discuss this, but he really does not see that he has any problems with this. Have you seen other people on the shots that have such a traumatic change in personality? What is a good level where a man still has a sex drive but doesn't act like a cave man?

[SJC9213]

I have lived this nightmare for 6 years now. As a former Paramedic, I have tried to have the talk with my husband that this stuff is making him rage to which he responds "I NEED it" and " You're not an MD you have no clue what you're talking about" (couple this with combat related PTSD). Talking to his Dr. is laughable, especially since it is a VA Dr. This junk drug has created it's own private hell for me. Everything in our home is a target and I live in a war zone. The screaming temper tantrums, verbal and emotional abuse are to the point of being unbearable. Oh, and I'm the one with an issue, and I'm crazy since he NEEDS it.

[campc123]

Welcome to my world.  My husband is only 2 months in using injections and our marriage is falling apart.  He's distant, angry, and not even very interested in sex with me.  Not sure what to do.  He is not the person he used to be.  And when I try and tell him that he does not want to hear it.  He has lost is sensitive, loving, caring side.  I just don't know what to do.  

[Norm9]

Campc123,

After my (necessary) orchiectomy  it did take some time for me to find the testosterone dosage that fit me while both keeping me sexually alive but not pushing me over the edge and becoming aggressive. My wife described it as going through puberty. Eventually, things got settled and I was able to live my life as a normal male.

[702mom]

I wish I had an answer!! My husband has been on testosterone gel and shots for 2 yrs. The gel is every day and the shots are once a week. Not sure how much he is on but I know it's a lot. His levels were a 210 and they are now a 260. They haven't increased much and his dr increases his doses every few months. He works out everyday but his body hardly changes. My husband also has major mood swings and everything else that was said. It is like walking on eggshells at times. He looses his patients with the kids and me! He then apologizes and acts like everything is fine. It's so tiresome dealing with his games of emotions!!! He never was like that before! Plus he is the worlds biggest procrastinator and is always so tired! We have been married 8 yrs. He did get a vasectomy and after doing research found I believe that to be the cause of his low low t levels! He had a 580 I believe before. The way we found out about his low levels was he had a heartattack at 31 yrs old. They did the blood work and shortly after started him on the cream! He was told he would have to be on t crap for the rest of his life. Well now his dr increased his shots and it is really affecting my body. I now have hyper and hypo thyroid, barely any sex drive, acne breakouts which I hardly ever get a zit, gained 10lbs, and I'm a mess. I think I have toxcitity now from him.I haven't noticed ANY differences with the increased shots from him only me!! But he thinks there is, now how do I get him to realize there is no difference! I have came close to a divorce also because he is not the man I married and I don't see a light at the end of this tunnel. Being his levels barely moved in 2 years and he has to be on this the rest of his life supposably! Reading what everyone else wrote helps me know I am right and not crazy! Just wish I could find answers! My family needs him!

[DCY123456]

I am so glad to read that I am not alone in this.  My husband had testicular cancer 7 years ago, and he has been on Testosterone since then.  He currently has pellets injected every six months.  He has bad mood swings, gets mad when we don't have sex enough (which is a complete turn off), and I swear that's all he ever thinks about. Even when we do have sex, it's all about the sex and not the intimacy/love anymore.  It is very disheartening.  I feel like he just loves me for my body now (which I work very hard to look good at 49 by working out and eating right), but what I am lacking is his love.  I have even contemplated divorce, but this is my second marriage, and I want to work on it.  I just wish my husband who I married 14 years ago was still the same sweet man. I still love him with all my heart, but my patience is waning. Stuck in a rut and heartbroken.

[DCY123456]

And let me clarify that he cheated on me 7 years ago, and I cannot bear for that to happen again, which is the only reason I would ever leave him. He was caught and swore he would never hurt me again.

[campc123]

I am in the same boat. My husband has only been doing the injections for about 2 months and he is a completely different person.  At first he was VERY interested in sex, but in the last month or so things have changed, and I'm not sure why (makes me think he's getting it somewhere else).  I'm 41 and he's 47, and I'm in excellent shape, which makes me wonder even more.  He used to want to hug and just cuddle together, and now he wants no part of that.  Why??  He gets angry so easily, and could care less about my feelings.  I'm just not sure what to do.  I can feel our marriage going down the tubes more and more every day.  How is your relationship now?  
I need help. I have noone to talk to about this.  

[GemGirl80]

I am so glad/sad that I found this thread. I swear I thought I was going crazy. My husband has been taking injections for 4 months. At first I was leary of it. It was not prescribed by a dr. He is getting them from a friend. So with that being said- he has not had any levels ran since starting them. A few years ago- his dr said he was slightly low T count, but would not prescribe Testosterone. (Prob because he did not need it) I have told him a few times that he is being snippy and short. It is getting progressively worse. In December he embarrassed me in front of my family (something he has never done in 9 years) I spoke with him about it after and he out right denied that he was being rude. My family was beyond a doubt put in tan awkward position. Lately I have been going through my own personal issues- one of my children has moved across the world to teach. I have been sad myself- and he was not ever attentive or responsive to my crying or sad mood. While he has had these mood swings, I have not made a big deal out of it. No arguing or anything on my end. Out of the blue last week he says he wants a divorce. Reasons: He has been getting fed up for the past 2 years with bickering, nagging and arguing. I asked him to please give me an example- Nothing. He says he still loves me- but wants to be single. He swears up and down hes not cheating... Nothing makes sense. I have begged him to please speak with a counselor. This literally feels like a gut punch. He says he will go- but hes NOT changing. I am wondering what happened to the man that I use to know. When I bring up the injections- he just laughs at me. He said he will stop doing them- I told him that we need to see a Dr so that he stop the appropriate way. I am really relying on my faith and patience to get me through this.. I do not want to walk out and give up this easily... But the emotional abuse is almost more that I can handle.

[Cc7171]

Testosterone injections are destroying my marriage as well. We are now separated.  My husband has been on t therapy for almost 2 years and we were that couple that you could say had a wonderful bonded marriage.  My husband has been through risky crazy behavior, acted like a total ***, been rude, crude, devious and acted like a crazy teenager!  He has ruined his relationship with many around him.  He has done it all since t.  His behavior has been unfathomable.  So truly out of character.  I am astonished that his incompetent doctor still hasnt looked further into this matter after what he's been told!  I am sad for all of you.  I found great resources.  Here are some http://taylorhooton.org/personality-changes-caused-by-low-t-therapy/, http://testosteroneaddiction.com/happy-anniversary/, http://drugabuse.com/library/steroid-abuse/, https://tsnmco.wordpress.com/tag/is-testosterone-addictive/.  I have spoken to Lisa Shaughnessy personally many times about her flight with T therapy.  She is the founder of the testosterone addiction link/website!  Great person to reach out to.  Good luck!  

[BanTestosteroneDrugs]

Same thing happened to my husband on testosterone we are now divorced bcs of it! Doctors should be held accountable for ruining marriages and families! This has truly become a testosterone addiction epidemic. I am in contact with Lisa on Facebook please join her Facebook group! I feel so bad that so many women are going thru the same exact thing with their husbands. Testosterone is a mind controlling drug and we need to get it banned!

[Mclark1419]

I am going through this right now and for the last two years. He doesn’t believe me about anything, obsessed about sex,  it is never enough,  he is inconsiderate and down right rude. He is mean now and doesn’t trust me. We are going to be married 20 years this year but I do t think we are going to make it to 21.   This is awful.

[123Rainey]

My husband took his third shot of 100cc on Thursday.   I had noticed a huge change in his personality after the first shot.   He started obsessing about sex and being crude.  He didn't care what he said about people or that they could hear what he said.   We had a family get together Saturday night and everyone was drinking a little.   Add alcohol to the T and you have one hell of a roid rage!!  My husband spent the night in jail for assault.   The Testosterone is in the trash.  Our marriage was in jeopardy.   After 18 years, my sweet husband turned into a monster on this stuff.   And he was like others said, everything was someone else's fault, when he was the one being the a$$.   I care about sanity in my life more than having a raging, sex obsessed, a$$hole husband.   Pharmaceutical companies are making a killing on making people think that is the "fountain of youth" as my husband referred to it as before he started using it.   He would rather be sane and not spend the night in jail again.  

[NotGoodEnough4Him]

I am so happy to know I am not alone, and that these mood swings and verbal/emotional abuse can be attributed to the testosterone. I was just told today that the reason he is nasty to myself and the kids is because I don't have enough sex with him. That if I just f***ed him, everything would be fine. We had sex twice less than 2 days ago. Then he took his injection. All of a sudden you would think we hadn't had sex in 6 months. He yells at the kids for minor things, then turns on me when I point out what he's doing. I've even asked that he stop the injections. It's going to destroy our marriage. I won't raise my daughter to believe it's ok to be treated like this, nor will I raise my son to believe it's ok to speak to or treat women like this. Either the testosterone issue gets resolved, or I'm gone. He's told me over and over that I'm not worth it anyway, so why the hell should I stay? I would love to tell him about the aromatase inhibitor or oral testosterone, but how do I get him to listen when his automoatic go-to is blaming everyone else for his ****** attitude?

[Girlmom88]

My husband, on injections for close to 4 years now, blames MY PMS.  He is in a complete state of denial.  I just found this site and am quite emotional reading through the stories and information.