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Stuck between a rock and a hard place
i'm newly pregnant.... Just found out a few days ago. I have a 6 yr old and my boyfriend has a 7 yr old. I haven't told him that I'm pregnant but I kinda threw it out there just to hear his response and see where his head is it and in so many words, he said get an abortion due to our financial situation which isn't that bad. We discussed having kids previously and he wants em. I understand the financial situation and things can turn around in 9-10 months but he didn't ask me what I wanted to do. So I need your opinions about this dilemma. Should I tell him, should I get an abortion? I don't want to seem selfish but then I don't want to seem like I'm forcing a child on him. HELP!!!
thanks I'm keepin it
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Sweetie, this is your choice. You are already a mother and know what is involved. what are your feelings?
Many women do have abortions and do so with no regrets. It's just not always the best thing for a woman to have a baby.
And it is for YOU to decide if now is the right time for you. I'm here to help discuss your options. good luck
Many women do have abortions and do so with no regrets. It's just not always the best thing for a woman to have a baby.
And it is for YOU to decide if now is the right time for you. I'm here to help discuss your options. good luck
Thank you ladies.... I talked to him.... It was a lot of back and forth but I guess he took a little time to think about what I was saying. The main thing was that he didn't ask how I felt or wanted to do and he said it's ultimately my choice (which I knew) and whatever I decide to do, he'll support it. The main issue to him is the financial state which I understood to begin with.
At the end of the day you need to think about what you want to do as this effects you mainly. Can you live with having an abortion? Do you want the child? Do you think you can cope mentally and physically and do you think you can raise a baby on your own on the off chance that he does leave.
My partner wanted to wait for kids to but when I found out I was pregnant although he was shocked to begin with, hes now excited the further we get.
Start by telling him that you are. The worst thing you can do is keep it a secret.
My partner wanted to wait for kids to but when I found out I was pregnant although he was shocked to begin with, hes now excited the further we get.
Start by telling him that you are. The worst thing you can do is keep it a secret.
please don't get an abortion. that baby was sent to you for a reason and deserves the love you can give it! there are many places that help with child care.
I would talk to him and make sure that he wasn't just speaking words. Not that he really wants another kid right now, but he might really have a problem with abortion. Guys say dumb things without actually thinking about what it means.
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and that's the thing it's not like he don't want kids. He do..... I guess he feel like financially we aren't there but we got more than enough time to get things together. Plus he has his own personal issues that's goin on and I do too but if it was vice versa and I tell him I'm pregnant and don't want it and not ask him how he felt about it. I'd be in the wrong. I had an abortion before but it was my choice and the guy it was by said he'll respect whatever decision I make. So I think we just gotta really sit and talk about it.
It sounds like you want this baby . Don't get abortion because doesn't want another baby....
Abortion would not cross my mind if you don't this gift from God then give it up for adoption I'm sure there are many couples out there who would really appreciate God's gift.
exactly even if thats what he wants you to do if you dpnt want to then dont im pregnant right now with baby num 5 my bf wanted me to get an abortion i could not do spmething like that especially after just having a miscarriage i was told that i wouldnt be able to have any more kids 3 months later i found out i was ptegnant so no im not going to get rid of my baby.....anyway 6 months later he is so exicted about having her he thanks me everyday for not going through with itit!!!
Thanks. I am. I'm going to have a talk with him face to face.
I wouldn't do it if you don't want to. If he doesn't want it and you do then tell him were to go. It is your baby as well and you have choices.
i wasn't going to do it behind his back and yes we were having unprotected sex and it's not like he said well I'm not ready for another kid yet so get on birth control or continued to use condoms because then I would've respected his decision to say get an abortion but since we both new what we were doing, he could've at least asked well what you want to do since it is my body you know.
Talk to him let him know that you are pregnant and go from there. Dont do something you might regret later on in life!
thats what I was thinking cuz I did go get the abortion I would have so much resentment towards him that i honestly wouldn't even want to be with him.
Are you having unprotected sex, or was this one of those times birth control failed?
I think the worst thing you could do is secretly get an abortion. Since you don't want the abortion and he sounds like - in the abstract - he does, I don't see why you would have to bear the pain and spare him the gravity of his decision.
Also, it seems hard to disguise an abortion. There is a recovery period.
I think the worst thing you could do is secretly get an abortion. Since you don't want the abortion and he sounds like - in the abstract - he does, I don't see why you would have to bear the pain and spare him the gravity of his decision.
Also, it seems hard to disguise an abortion. There is a recovery period.
Oh I would definitely tell him.
Im not having an abortion just bcuz my husband don't want a baby. It's ur decision and if you think you can afford the baby or have resources keep the baby. I don't want I to have an abortion on his account n regret it. We all know what can happen when we have sex it's not the fetus fault it was conceived.
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