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My mum was in tears yesterday begging me to have an abortion. She begged and pleaded with me to get rid of my baby because she doesn't want me tied to the father of the child forever. He is not a good person. He also wanted me to get an abortion and I told him no so he called my mum and told her I was pregnant and then began to lie about me to her calling me a ***** and stating that the child was not his because I had slept with all of his friends. My mum was so upset. She doesn't want me to be a single parent and she doesn't want me tied to that type of person and she has begged and cried saying the best thing for me is to have an abortion. I really need advice because I don't know what to do anymore. I don't want to hurt my mum but at the same time I don't want to get an abortion. I'm 22 and 9 weeks pregnant. Thank you x
Choose life!
If you want the baby then keep. It's your body and a precious little baby inside of you alive and growing :0) Stand strong and don't let negative people bring you down. ((HUGS))
Get away from that man. Having a child that is biologically his does not tie you to him. He sounds vile and your mum sounds right on that account.
However, terminating your pregnancy is about you and your potential child and is personal to you and not your mum or that man who is behaving horribly. You are already 9 weeks so need to think quickly. Will your mum support you emotionally either way? Is there another adult in your life who you can confide in and who will listen and help you work out what's right for you?
Either way I'd cut that man out of your life (change your phone number and DONT TEXT or Facebook or whatever other social media you use) unless he calms down and mans up.
I hope you find support to make a decision that's right for you long term. I'm sure you could make a great single-mother if you are motivated and draw on every support available. Similarly, your life may be better if you don't go down that path. It's so hard to know. People are polarised on termination of pregnancy on this forum so their advice is weighted with personal views and sometimes a bit judgmental. But that is because it is such a personal thing!
However, terminating your pregnancy is about you and your potential child and is personal to you and not your mum or that man who is behaving horribly. You are already 9 weeks so need to think quickly. Will your mum support you emotionally either way? Is there another adult in your life who you can confide in and who will listen and help you work out what's right for you?
Either way I'd cut that man out of your life (change your phone number and DONT TEXT or Facebook or whatever other social media you use) unless he calms down and mans up.
I hope you find support to make a decision that's right for you long term. I'm sure you could make a great single-mother if you are motivated and draw on every support available. Similarly, your life may be better if you don't go down that path. It's so hard to know. People are polarised on termination of pregnancy on this forum so their advice is weighted with personal views and sometimes a bit judgmental. But that is because it is such a personal thing!
Don't get an abortion. I'm 16 and pregnant and I'm trying my best to make it through this my family was shocked and upset at the time they found but now they regret everything. Once this all passes over your mom will be happy for you. If I can make it through this you can I believe in you!
I would never even consider an abortion. Especially being so far along. This is your baby, not your mothers. I understand you care for her feelings but this is your baby and your body! No one else has a say in it but you! Please keep the baby, it'll be hard but you can do it! I'm 16 and almost 35 weeks and I still never considered abortion. I couldn't bear the thought of harming my unborn child, even though its been hard and will continue to get harder, it'll all be worth it in the end. Good luck to you!
Well. You are an adult. What you do with you body is your choice not your mothers. This is not her baby but yours. You dont have to stay with that guy anyway. If you feel you cannot raise your child then there is adoption. But abortion is hard mentally in the end. Most regret it at some point in their lives.
I was in the same situation almost 2 years ago my family wanted me to get an abortion also the father of the child I did it not because I wanted to but I did it because my family and the father of the child wanted me to....coming from a person who has had one do not do it unless YOU want to doing it because of others will cause so much problems after the fact I would not recommend nobody getting one I was depressed I had so many problems after the fact but just do what's best for you and not what others want you to do
I had an abortion that I was coerced into. He said if I didn't, he would leave. I should have let him leave. Choosing him over my baby was the worst choice I've ever made.
It took me many months to get through it. I got past it, but not over it.
This was in 2012, and it still hurts.
Do not do it because someone else tells you to.
It took me many months to get through it. I got past it, but not over it.
This was in 2012, and it still hurts.
Do not do it because someone else tells you to.
Keep it your mom really isn't thinking what is best for you she thinks it is but really that is a huge emotional decision 10 years from now you will have nothing but regret in your life you won't die because your a single parent its hard and you never know maybe god will bring you a good man later on life but think about the baby nobody else. Every situation gets better one day or another . Good luck and please don't kill a innocent child. It's not the baby's fault. And plus god is with you
Just have the baby and don't put the man's name on baby's birth certificate. Simple as that, if he wants nothing to do with the child, then better for u. Ur mom can't make u have an abortion, and if u thinkbu can handle being a single parent then do it!! Being a single parent to one child is not as bad or as scary as some might think. U can do it if u know ur responsible enough. Simple as that. If u dont already have insurance, apply for Medicaid and start planning for baby. Save as much money as u can, and take care of ur baby. Ur mom will come around eventually, they always do. No worries, in the end everything always turns out fine.. I'm older, but I was a single mom as well so I speak from experience..you'll be fine..
xxcamxx, no "love", this forum is for women over 35 yrs. old. As the android version has recently updated and the "35+", has been changed to "35+ yrs old." Update your app! There was also a post from one of the moderators, about a month back clarifying that this forum is, in fact, for women over 35 years old.
Speeters101, please don't get an abortion. You can raise this child on your own, with the help of family and friends. Another option is to release the child for adoption. I did this when I was 18 years old, pregnant, and single, and my birth daughter is now a beautiful 20 yr. Old, and I am wonderful friends with her and her family; ).
Speeters101, please don't get an abortion. You can raise this child on your own, with the help of family and friends. Another option is to release the child for adoption. I did this when I was 18 years old, pregnant, and single, and my birth daughter is now a beautiful 20 yr. Old, and I am wonderful friends with her and her family; ).
I would advise you NOT to have an abortion. I am also 22 years old and got pregnant by a man who is a drug dealer, someone I don't wanna be tied to either. But ending my child's life is not the answer. I did consider abortion at first because I felt hopeless but after talking with SEVERAL women who have had abortions, I changed my mind. I strongly suggest doing some research on the effects abortion has on women emotionally and physiologically. A high percentage of them end up with drug/alcohol issues, extreme guilt and anxiety, suicide, subsequent unwanted pregnancies to "make up" for their unborn baby and the list goes on. This is YOUR decision, something that you will have to live with the rest of your life. Pleasing your mom may seem like the easy way out now, but you have to consider the consequences u might face down the road. I know it's scary, I was in the same boat but I am SO happy I chose to keep my baby....she has already brought me so much joy and gave my life a new meaning. There are many resources out there for single moms going through this, you will have help and support if you decide to chose LIFE for your precious baby.
I can understand were your mother is comming from. Do you really want to be the tied to scum like that? If you cannot raise the child put it up for adoption. You are still young.
The app was updated to read 35+ years old
But that's not important
There's nothing wrong with being a single mother but there is something wrong with staying with a disrespectful guy like that
If you stay with him and keep this baby you will be raising two children that will grow up with his negativity towards you do you want your children to be disrespectful to you do you want them to grow up and treat their partners like he's treating you
Start being resourceful can you collect child support from him
Look into it and get the heck away from him
But that's not important
There's nothing wrong with being a single mother but there is something wrong with staying with a disrespectful guy like that
If you stay with him and keep this baby you will be raising two children that will grow up with his negativity towards you do you want your children to be disrespectful to you do you want them to grow up and treat their partners like he's treating you
Start being resourceful can you collect child support from him
Look into it and get the heck away from him
No love its for women over 35 weeks bellona!!! U do what u feel is right its your body and baby not ur mums! He has made u feel so awful so u need to get him out ur life asap! Good luck whatever you choose x
Sorry I misread your post. You're 22 years old and 9 weeks pregnant. This forum is for women pregnant over the age of 35. But still, my advice is the same.
22 weeks is waaaaaaay to late to get an abortion! Is that even legal where you live? Make your decison for your baby and you. Not your mother and some guy who doesn't even want the baby
I was 13 when I had my first and she is 20 years old but her dad told my mom he wanted no part of the baby and i could not get a abortion because i was to far along. so with help of family I had her and now I'm married and he raised her since she was 4 years old and adopted her. So that's her farther.
That's a hard situation because if hes acting like that I would considered having one unless you will be the only parent so wight your option sorry to hear that.
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