Is it worth reading a baby alone at 20 years old?

[jwright234]

So I recently found out I was 5 weeks pregnant. The father of my baby was there for me and now he's getting cold feet. He wants me to have an abortion cause he says he's to young for this. Which I totally understand, but my heart wants me to keep this baby. And I am willing to work 5 jobs if I have to keep this baby. I also don't want to bring a kid into this life not knowing if the father will b there for him/her. I guess what I'm trying to figure out is.. Is it worth raising a baby alone at 20 years old?
Starting to have seconds thoughts about keeping this baby.):
Please help!

[specialmom]

Hi there.  Ahh, I'm very sorry to hear this.  I think having a baby is very hard on your own hon.  Five jobs gives you no time to be with the baby.  :>((  

I'd use pen and paper and write down all the options and the pros and cons.  Abortion, Adoption and keeping the baby.  

If you need any help, please know I am here.  good luck

[AnnieBrooke]

Are you considering putting the baby up for adoption?  That way you would know he or she had a good life, and you could still be in touch.  (Open adoptions are pretty much the norm.)  It's not so much your willingness to work 5 jobs to keep the baby, it is that you won't be able to.  The kind of jobs a 20-year-old can get are not high paying (unless you're a pop star, of course, or super good at writing computer code) and you will need to pay for child care while you are working, and good child care is expensive.  And as life goes on, you will want the kind of education that gives you a job that pays better over time and offers advancement, just willingness to work 5 jobs now is not moving you to that goal.  Besides, you will want to be with your baby some of the time, and as the child grows, he or she will protest that you are always gone and he or she is in day care or after-school care without you near. "5 jobs" is not an option even if you are willing.

Will the dad pay child support?  Or do you think he'll skip out on payments?  Will he be involved at all?

If you are having doubts, seriously consider putting the baby up for adoption.  There are so few babies and so many couples looking to adopt.  They do home studies and screening, and as I said, you can arrange for an open adoption.  You might give that route some consideration.