abortions

[hungry123]

Im 13 and my boyrriend is 15 and we started having sex but with protection and we decided to try it with out a condom and. And about a mobth later i found i was pregnant and now im 12 weeks pregnant and me and my boyfriend are consideriing an abortion because we arent ready to parents and i kinda dont wanna get it but its the best choice. In my case can anyone give me some advice it be very very helpful.

[NOHARD]

Hi Hungry, Dont do such a foolish thing at 13, stick to the condoms or get on the BC pill, you are just to young to take on the responcablity of getting pregnant and having a baby, and would you 15 year old boyfriend stand by you and pay for its upkeep, just whatch the dust cloud we he finds out, then ask the question again, A he's at school, B no job, C I dont think his parents would help.
You have lots to think about, to condom or not to condom, but please think clearly, your young, stay young, if you end up with child, you would soon be old, think, think, think, lots to think about.
Save the unprotected sex till your much older, and just enjoy what you doing now.
Good Luck

[remar]

I think you read that her boyfriend is 15. Both of them are still babies themselves. I really don't see how this could work out if they kept the baby. Adoption would be a wonderful option. At only 13 though, I agree, it may be hard for her to even carry a baby with no medical problems.

[arlandonbloom]

I apologize for not understanding your post the first time I read it through. I must have skipped over the first words saying you were 13. I agree with anniebrooke and special mom. At age 13 you are getting ready to get into middle school, you have sports, high school dances, football games, etc. to look forward to. High school is your prime years where you make your friends you keep for a lifetime. As both responders , in this case I would agree that abortion is acceptable for your body is not fully mature enough to carry a baby. Sex is not a game, and if you choose to go forward with the action protect yourself, get on birth control, use condoms or just don't do it. Pregnancy isn't an easy thing, and since your body isn't fully mature it would be very hard. Talk with your parents, don't be scared to tell them. Your parents should be your best friends that you can go to for anything. Again, I am sorry for offending any readers for my mistake in misreading her post, and good luck hungry123!

[specialmom]

Oh my goodness.  I'm sorry to hear this.  Yes, even with unprotected sex ONE time, someone can get pregnant.  I think that you really need to talk to your mom.  I agree with anniebrooke that it does indeed seem a reasonable choice to terminate a the young age of 13.  It can hurt your heart a little as it is a sad thing but it does allow you to move on with life and learn from this experience.  Adoption is another possiblility to think about but again, at your age, childbirth is hard.  Talk to your mom and come up with a plan and do this SOON.  At 12 weeks, your options could run out soon.  good luck

[AnnieBrooke]

The poster is 13, not 15.

[arlandonbloom]

At age 15 I couldn't imagine raising a baby but when you say you don't want to but think its the best choice are you sure you are thinking it over? Abortions are more pushed onto people by family, partners, etc. Even though you are young, think it over. Don't be scared to talk with parents. Think it over.

[AnnieBrooke]

Are you being advised by any rational adult at all?  When you say "it's the best choice," I am sure you are correct.  A 13-year-old is not meant to carry a baby, your body is still growing up.  Are you living with your parent(s)?  Probably (unless you live somewhere pretty unusual) you will need a parent or guardian to sign a permission form for you to have an abortion.  What is the likelihood of this happening readily?  If your mom or dad will sign, then that is about all it takes; go to a safe, legal place and they will do a D&C.  Please write back.