Can't get wet enough, but extremely horny

[kle994]

So I've been with this guy a few times, and during foreplay when we have our clothes on, I'll become wet, but as soon as we're naked, I'm not wet enough or I dry up completely.  I am attracted to him and I do get turned on when he does things like grab my breasts or kiss my neck, but even though I'm turned on by how good that feels, I wont get wet.  I am a virgin but I'm really not nervous about the act.  I was only wet once and he got the tip of his penis inside, but then it literally felt like it couldn't go in further even if we tried to shove it in, so his penis ended up slipping out and then I dried up right after.  

He's done everything to make me feel good...going down on me, fingering and rubbing me, and it feels good but I'll dry up quickly after.  The thing is, I've never gotten wet-wet, even when I'm masturbating by myself. I'll become a little wet but not like very wet like youre supposed to be.

I don't want to use lubricant because I'm young (19) and I want to become wet on my own so losing my virginity won't hurt as much.  I'm also on birth control, but this hasn't changed anything for me sexually, I wasn't able to become very wet even before I did BC.  

This has happened once before the first time I tried to have sex with someone but couldnt get wet so we stopped. This 2nd guy is understanding so I want to resolve this issue while I'm with him because I am attracted to him and I don't want this to happen with another guy who may not be as understanding

[Bhupinder Kaur, MD]

Hello,
For your dryness of vagina,there are a few possibilities. It may be due to lack of foreplay before intercourse, medical conditions such as vaginusmus and pelvic pain,vaginitis,anxiety regarding performance,low estrogen levels,inflammation and infections of vagina, and drugs such as narcotics, tranquilizers, nicotine, alcohol and sedatives.

First of all, indulge in foreplay before intercourse and use some lubricants like such as KY jelly, or moisturizers, such as Replens or Senselle or vaginal estrogen creams.Also keep your pelvic area clean and wear cotton undergarments.

If it persists then get it evaluated especially vaginismus from a gynecologist.

It is very difficult to precisely confirm a diagnosis without examination and investigations and the answer is based on the medical information provided. For exact diagnosis, you are requested to consult your doctor. I sincerely hope that helps. Take care and please do keep me posted on how you are doing.

[Goodguy46]

Im a man but i know what thats like. I get horny with a woman clothed but when my clothes come off my penis shrinks and dries up. [No precum]. I think its psychological. Maybe you dont think you are attractive. But you are. I dont know you but you have alot to offer him.

[dranaant]

hello dr kaur