Difficult to begun sex and consistent blood after sex~everytime

[Reham256]

Hello Community,
I am having an issue with my sex life due to vaginal size and it's becoming worrisome. My vagina is small and I tend to bleed after sex. Getting penetration started, due to my size, is always an issue, no matter how ready I am. I have had children and have had a complete hysterectomy so it isn't period related. Due to my size, all of my children were c-section. This is becoming a major issue in my new marriage. My ex didn't have an issue but that is also why he is the ex. I didn't have sex between marriages so I never realized this was such an issue.
My Ob/Gyn doesn't feel it's an issue (that's a man for you), but the bleeding has my hubby concerned. He worries about penetration so our sex life is suffering. I am at a loss and don't want him to feel neglected due to this. I also don't want this to become the pattern of our sex life within our marriage. It could spell doom eventually so if anyone has any recommendations, advice, or information that would be amazing. Thanks in advance

[specialmom]

Hi.  Congrats on the new marriage.  Hope this gets sorted out.  The vagina is made to stretch so this should theoretically get better.  Really personal question as I'm sure you have had discussions about this with your doctor. Could there be anything psychological going on?  Example (and not to pry and you don't have to answer here) but have you ever been sexually assaulted? Sometimes that kind of thing or in general when our mind is not comfortable with sex, we can not relax.

If you are post menopausal, the statistic is up to 63% women (and I think having a hysterectomy is immediate menopause in terms of hormones so this would be you) experience bleeding after sex.  Vaginal dryness is the typical culprit.  Have you considered trying something like an estrogen cream down that way?   The cervix also can be quite vascular and bleed when bumped.  This is where most vaginal bleeding after sex (which Mayo Clinic says is common) comes from the cervix.

Now, because there are other more serious reasons for vaginal bleeding such as you describe, I'd make sure to either have your current doctor rule out any serious reasons (cancer) for the bleeding or find a new doc and start over.

But I'd consider if this isn't actually hormonal dryness at this time especially since you have had a hysterectomy.

[AnnieBrooke]

Find a better doctor. I would expect a doc to take this seriously (try a female doctor). There are vaginal creams with hormones in them, and there are things called vaginal dilators, you should talk to a doctor who has heard of both things.