Husbands finger burns wife vagina when inserted

[Ranger7]

I Need help . My wife and I have been married for 25 years each 49yrs old. Everytime i attempt to insert my finger inside her she states that there is a burning sensation and it hurts. We have tried all kinda of lubricants. Ive changed soaps , everything.she doesnt feel that from my penis. I am concerned that maybe there is some type of chemical mismatch of sorts. Any info would be of great help. We also have tried different toys and they have not caused any problems. she has only been with 2 other men before our marriage and she said no problems with that. Is she BSing me or is this for real. anyone haveing or has had the same ordeal please let me know Thanks

[Hayley723]

She could have vaginal dryness and need to use estrogen cream once in a while, especially if she says it burns and her age (not that shes old). Her gyn can help her with this.

[trac777]

There is a rather serious autoimmune disease called Behcet's Syndrome. This disease's initial symptoms closely resemble the herpes virus, causing itching, inflammation, vaginal sores, fissures, cuts, boils, or folliculitis (ingrown hairs). Other symptoms develop years later, so it is very important that you find out just what it is that is causing your symptoms. Don't be too quick to brush it off as nothing, Behcet's disease affects people of every age and every race. Also, be careful choosing a doctor, you want to see someone who know's enough to tell you what Behcet's Syndrome is all about, if they don't know that, they don't know enough to help you. It is not contagious, it just happens to people. Visit the American Behcet's Disease Association website message board for more information. Also, sex without a condom will trigger a flare of this disease, Behcet's patients have a reaction to human to human genital contact of any kind. This means they'll need to use condoms even with their spouse inorder to control symptoms.
Still, people with Behcet's Syndrome will have "flares" even if they don't have sex at all. Any type of stress, illness, or injury can trigger an attack. The attacks will get worse and cause other symptoms throughout the body if left untreated.

[Ranger7]

I understand completely I really have been trying to find answers. I didnt realize that this was a womens forum until today. I am just trying to find out if possibly that I may have some kind of acid or secretion that could irritate her. But thank you very much for your input.

[keephope558]

ok i reread that and i defintely wasn't trying to be rude. i'm just saying that i don't see any reason for her to BS you when you guys have been together for that long and seem pretty open with your sexualities. And I wasn't trying to knock your technique by saying how I personally can relate. lol....sometimes i can sound kinda harsh.

[keephope558]

I don't think she is BSing you...most women don't like to feel sexually inadequate to their man in anyway. I would hope that if she didn't want you to do that for any reason that she would be able to tell you and you would be cool w/ that. The skin on your hands is definitely a much rougher texture than the penis. So she only has this problem when being fingered? I get the same thing if a man just flat out tries to stick his finger up there without "warming me up" first. Fingers get calloused, jagged nails, dry cuticles, etc.