Is there something wrong with me. I rarely get turned on or have orgasims

[Hummingbird4379]

After having 4 kids it's really hard for my husband to get me off or even to get me in the mood sometimes well more often then I would like to admit. I really do want to have intercourse with him but it's just so hard for me to have an orgasim. I feel guilty and I feel like I really hurt his feelings when nothing works to put me in the mood. What can I do or what else can we do to get me in the mood or even have an orgasim.

[AnnieBrooke]

The doctor told you that the medications would not affect your sexual desire, but it would hardly be surprising if your depression affects your sexual desire. You've got a heavy workload, a lot of transition, and depression. Sexual desire does not flourish in such circumstances. Don't put yourself down, you're doing well just to get from day to day, right now. Tell your husband he's just going to have to start things for a while, and don't be apologetic about it. You've got enough on your plate.

[specialmom]

You may have mom syndrome.  :>))  It's hard to switch focus from running after kids to being a hot wife!  I've had that myself.  Some days I'm tired and running on fumes or ready to pull my hair out OR look like a bird tried to nest in my hair . . .  my kids are older now so not as much but when they were young, whoa.  I could be a hot mess inside and out!  The house could feel very much like it needed to be burned because cleaning seemed overwhelming which does NOT help the mood, etc.  And frankly, to this day, the sexiest thing my husband can do for me is to say 'honey, you go take a nap.  I'm going to make dinner, clean the bathroom and vacuum the family room".  Oh, be still my heart!!!!  So, I do think that plays a role.  What are the ages of your kids?  Also, is there anything else going on?  How is your mood?  Any depression or anxiety going on (low level or higher)? Your hormones could be wonky.  Both of those can decrease your libido.  Both can be helped if you talk to your doctor.  How is your relationship with your husband overall?  Any underlying issues there?

[Hummingbird4379]

My 3 girls are 17,6,and 5 and my son is 11. I'm on buspar for anxiety and trintellix for depression but my doctor reassured me that it wouldn't affect my intimacy. My husband at times tries to throw guilt trips about how he always has to start things. We just moved into my grandmas old house so we are cleaning each room out trying to get the kids into their own rooms so unfortunately we are sleeping in the family room and living room. Last April I had to have my right ovary removed due to fibroids and now they are talking about if my ultrasound shows any fibroids or cysts on my left ovary that they are going to do a hysterectomy and I'm only 32. I do want to be intimate but it's like my girly bits don't want to work anymore.