If you aren't getting kissing and romance, that is not much of a boyfriend, whether he wants to touch your vagina or not. I would begin to feel kind of used if he wanted me to give him a hand job but didn't even want to kiss me. (And that goes double if he wants you to do a ********.) In your shoes, I would let this boyfriend know that he is now an ex-boyfriend. Let him go find someone else, and especially, let go so you can find a more enthusiastic and loving partner. You deserve it.