Why am I not turned on?

[patdog08]

Hey guys,
I am feeling a bit lost. My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year, and though I love him very much, I find it quite difficult to get turned on. I have tried reading sexy novels and lots of foreplay, but i feel something is missing. Is there anything else anyone can suggest?

Or maybe it is just me and I cannot get turned on. Is that possible?

Any help would be much appreciated, its sort of eating into me...
x

[KCSweetie]

I have the same problem. I was dating a guy for over a year, the best relationship of my life, then all of a sudden....a complete inability to get turned on. We've since broken up (or defined ourselves as in an open relationship). I still have the same problem with EVERYONE. And  I have tried EVERYTHING. It makes no sense. I haven't found anything on the internet that could explain it, and I have been looking for over a year. I should go to a doctor, but I'm afraid of what they might say.

[Taybey]

i have that same problem but im 54 and been through menopause. any help for me?

[lornextdoor]

Are you on the pill? When I was on it, my sex drive was virtually zero. As soon as I stopped, though, it came back in full force! All that time I though there was something wrong with me, but it really had nothing to do with me or my relationship.

[AnnieBrooke]

Is he a sympathetic guy, interested in you and your doings?  Or just some horn dog who doesn't care much about your feelings?  Especially if you can feel sexy about other people (in fantasy or reality), maybe it's time to look at the relationship.

[Chelcifer]

I sincerely doubt anything is wrong with you medically. It could simply be boredom. Try bringing something new into the bedroom, like a new position or a toy. Get an open line of communication, too! One fairly painless suggestion is each of you make a list of ten things you'd like to try, then show them to each other. Something as simple as that could get the creative and literal juices flowing again.