vaginal dryness

[jnitro26]

i am having trouble getting a staying wet, and when me and my husband have sex it hurts him and he gets all red, its like im ripping his skin, does anyone know what could be causing this, he doesnt even want to have sex with me anymore. please help.

[AliciiaMaynard]

By jamie southern | Feb 25, 2007  
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I think i have what is called vaginal dryness. Normally im rather moist but when it comes to sexual intercourse i seem to dry up almost instantly as soon as i get touched, it causes friction and its embarassing that i cant make my self wet when im arroused. Most of the research i have already done has told me it is 95% of the time stress related, but this doesnt help me to solve the problem, is ther anything i can take or do to keep lubricated?
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monkeyflower  
Feb 25, 2007
Buy some good waterbased lube. A lot of people like Astroglide (which you can find in any drug store), or if you're prone to yeast infections, you might prefer a glycerin-free lube, like Slippery Stuff. Regardless, you can go to any sex toy store (in person or online) and find an astonishing variety of lubes :-)
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fiona1983  
Feb 26, 2007
hello,
Are you TTC. If you are I advise using Pre-seed as it does not kill off sperm like other lubricants.
Its not expensive and you can get internal or external.
Hope this helps if you are TTC.
I have used it for he first time this month and am awaiting the 1st march hoping for a BFp!
fiona
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AliciiaMaynard  
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To: jamie southern
Hi, I know this is a late reply but I am sure that if you no longer suffer from this issue that others may and hopefully this will help someone.

I was a sufferer from vaginal dryness for a long time, to the point that sex became unbearable. I hated having sex because I knew my dryness would frustrate him. Being a woman, there is nothing more embarrassing than having to pull out lube. So I am sure that is not what you want to hear so I am not going to tell you (although lube is a little less frustrating to him if you explain to him that you arent wet because he didn't turn you on, he won't be so mad about applying some lube then lol)

First, perform what I like to call "the test." When you are alone, masterbate by clitoral stimulation and bring yourself an orgasm. There is no reason to be embarrassed about your dryness alone so just lay back and enjoy the feelings that you havent been able to experience because of your embarrassment from dryness. If you aren't wet before orgasm, you should be wet after, the vagina just gets wet after orgasm. If your body has succeeded in secreting after orgasm, then you are able to get wet. If not, then go talk to your gyno, you may have a serious problem (std).

If you did get wet after orgasm, then most of our stress about the situation should be gone you know you can get wet, you just have to figure out how.
First Solution: Inform him that you cannot become completely aroused unless he gives you an orgasm using oral sex first. This way he will make you orgasm with his already wet tongue and wont realize that you werent wet before you orgasmed.
Second Solution: If your plant is dry, what do you do, water it. My second suggestion and the most successful method for me was to DRINK WATER.!!! Your vagina cannot be moisturized if your body is not and the best way is to DRINK WATER! After I started drinking 80 oz of water a day (your weight in ounces divided by two) I became so wet my man couldn't handle it!! so cut out your juices and sodas and just drink more water!!
Third solution: Moisturize your vagina. Get some vaginal lotion or gel and insert it into your vagina. Squeeze your vaginal muscles a few times and masterbate. Allow your juices to mix and mingle with the lotion and gel juices. Let it sit as long as you can bear, I suggest just putting on your clothes and letting it sit all day. Your body will slowly absorb the juices. Then it will be able to replicate it during sex.

I hope this helps somebody!!!!

*I am NOT a health professional and this method has not been tested, this is just what worked for ME*

ps if he doesnt want to have sex with you at all and refuses to be patioent with you through usage of lubricants, he may not be the man of your dreams.

[jnitro26]

the thing is i dont want to have to use a lube everytime i want to have sex, it kills the moment, i want to get wet on my own,is there something i can take to help with it. and im not taking any birth control.

[ziza]

If you're on birth control pills, in some women they can cause dryness

[Allie03]

I think that happens to a lot of women, especially as you get older. I don't know how old you are but I'm 34 and I experience it from time to time, even though I am feeling aroused with my boyfriend. It makes no sense to me. I try to drink plenty of water too which is supposed to help but nonetheless, it is frustrating. The only thing I can suggest to you is using a good lubricant.  My friend recommended Eros which is a silicone based lube that's so good you can even use it as a moisturizer or hair serum. LOL.  It's more expensive than those crappy KY ones in the store but so worth it. I am going to get some myself so I'll keep you posted on the quality.

Oh one more thing too, sometimes unresolved emotions or stress can make us dry. There may be something bothering you that you may not realize as it's on a subconscious level. That's also happened with me too hence why I bring it up.