What should I do? I think I'm depressed.

[liveforever]

         I'm a seventeen year old girl and I think I might be depressed. I don't do drugs or drink any alcohol, and I don't cut myself. I am a fairly popular kid in highschool. I used to think I was normal, but I just realised today that I haven't been acting like myself lately. My grades have dropped (I used to get 90's, now I barely get 70's) because I have trouble concentrating. I have been feeling angry and have had many mood swings that my friends and family have noticed. I cry myself to sleep for absolutely no reason. I often feel very sad. I'm not suicidal, however I have thought about it (just of what would happen, not of actually commiting it). I don't go out anymore, I barely call or text my friends, and I have been a little unsociable lately. I used to want to apply to a very competitive college but now I don't think I'm smart enough. The activities I used to enjoy I avoid now. I was at a concert a week ago, one that I have been dreaming to go to all my life, because they're British and never come to the US, and while in line, I seriously thought about just going home and sleeping. I also have noticed that my sleeping habits have changed, I can barely sleep. My eating habits haven't changed much; I used to be really thin, and I have gained ten pounds, but I think that is really normal, you can't even tell I gained weight. I've been feeling really sad, and thought that the whole world has been bleak and lifeless. I feel like the world is experiencing a great depression, however when I asked someone about if they remember being happier a year ago, they replied that they feel the same.

I do not want to admit to my family that I am feeling depressed, because I think they will feel like I want attention. That's the opposite of what I want. I have been trying to hide my feelings as much as possible but aparently it's not working because people have noticed I don't act like I did before.

However, that being said, I'm not sulking around 24/7, I do go to work, and have conversations with people. So what should I do? Should I try to see if it wears off? I don't really think it is that important or serious to see a doctor or go on medication. Is there a way to cure it by myself? I don't really want anyone to know that I am depressed unless I need to. Also therapy wont work; I'm just not that type of person.

[goodgardenpeas28]

ok, a couple things, the first being that therapy wont work...I used to think the same thing at your age and when my parents finally sent me I HATED IT! That being said I am now 20 and still going to therapy...it does help because you can tell them all about being depressed and not being able to tell your parents. It takes the edge off of being depressed. Next, I would suggest going to your doctor (general physician or pediatrician) and asking them what to do about your being depressed, and ask them not to tell your parents (I'm almost positive that they're not allowed to tell your parents) The possibility is that you can find things to do on your own to help "get rid of" this depressed feeling (exercise is a good way to get endorphins) but if it gets worse or continues for a long period of time I would suggest seeing a doctor about getting medication. There are however plenty of "natural remedies" for depression and I don't mean homeopathic stuff I mean things like exercise, joining a club, that sort of thing. Because its effecting your sleep it is more serious than you would like to admit. Sleep regulates your body and if you aren't  getting enough it could throw everything out of whack. If you don't want to tell a doc about the depression at least tell them about the sleeping issues, and maybe they can help! also talking to people (whether it be friends, family, or even online) can help tremendously. best of luck to you!

[dom127]

Im an 18 yr old boy and i think im depressed i feel like my past is haunting me i hate feeling like that i have suicidal thoughts i feel like people are just putting on an act so they dont hurt my feelings wat should i do?

[inthedark002]

im a fifteen year old girl almost 16. im just like the other girl almost exactly except im definately not popular in school. people tell me all the time i have really bad temper issues outside of school. in school im quite and dont really talk to anyone. i think im depressed too but i dont want to tell my mom. i dont want to have to explain why cause quite frankly i dont know exactly why. looking back at my whole life it basically sucked so i dont have exact reasons. i feel like i dont know who i am recently and i think that is a big part of it. idk. i just have a lot on my brain.

[lil_boy33]

all of these stories sound like me expessially the first one so what should i do in order to make it all go away. ohh and i ddnt gain any wieght though. but i hide my emotions and always try to act happy, i cry myself to sleep, used to cut myself, and now my life is close to become some one elses business.
teachers at my skul are always up my *** and they just wont leave me alone. srry bout the cussing. but every since i started middle skul i've felt tht no matter what happens i'm always goin to be like this.
but when i hang with my friends they can tell when i'm unhappy but most of the time i get reall sad for no reason at all.
my email to face book is
monte.***@****

if some one out there can understand what i am going through than plz send a request and ask top chat plz.

[Minisharpiee]

I say go to a therapist attack it now before it gets worse. You do NOT want to be like me at all. Difference is im 14. If you have someone to talk to maybe some stranger it might make you feel better, but real advice from a licensed therapist will help the most. Idk about you but where I live there are little centers were you can walk in and its a group of girls going through issues too kinda like an AA meeting but your not an alchoholic so yeah its something like that and its great because you know you have a support system and what is being discussed in there stays in there. It can cause you to build really great friendships too.


I think help online doesnt have the same personal effect because in real life you know they are near by and they are telling you that you can succeed and you can be something!

If it helps I believe in you. You dont HAVE to get into an ivy college. Most of them are stuck up anyways as I heard on studentsreview.com

You can get the same quality education and a good job going to a good college , a small one, online courses. Ivy leagues just have connections and as soon as your gone so will the connections be.

(: so just enjoy life and remember there are people who support you!!

[gayyy]

im 14 years i have a really bad feeling that theres something wrong with me, im popular in school have loads of friends and the older lads really good to me. i go out a good bit text all the time which is a bad thing i cant go anywer without thinking about my phone and if i have a message. i come home to my parents practilly screaming, if they ask me questions i get pure thick, if they say no to letting me go out i get a really bad anger and think of lots of bad things... 4 of my close friends have commit sucide .. ino its not the answer but im really depressed lately i sound like a spoilt little ***** ino but i really need help my friends being gone is a major thing for me even though i have loads still i cant talk to my parents a teacher or a friend... i dont no what to do..

[mikmik42]

i know this sounds like a smart allec answer, but go to church.  Ive had severe depression spells since January, and the only thing that truly helps me is calling on god to hold me in his hand that night, the nights i really just want to end everything i can feel him tugging on my heart.  Take this from someone who truly knows what your going through. i promise youll find something there. and i know what your thinking, were a bunch of hypocrites and judgemental arrogant christians.  But i swear someone in there will embrace you.  It might be a person, it might even be Jesus. but nothing else will satisfy you as much as his love because we were carved from his palm to love and be loved by God.  i hope this helps, but remember suicide will never be the answer. i promise, my grandpa would tell me its a permanent solution for a temoporary problem.

i love you and ill pray for you. please hear me out and try it.

[bluegirlx3]

it so weird how i feel the same as you do about most of the things you have written. im a pretty pouplur kid, people constinly tell me hpw beatiful i am and how fun i am. see the thing is i go out to partiess and things like a normal 14 year old girl. but when im with a hug amout of people i try and hide this so i dont draw attention to myself. at my friends party last night and i tryed and cover it up but something was borthering me. last nighi was at a friends house and all of the sudden started eatning and eating and i walked to a into the bathroom casually and started crying. i bent down near the toliet and was about to throw up, but then i stopped. i told  my friends about this and all there respone are maybe you should tell your parent, the thing is my parents arent the tpye that would understand, they would t comfort me and send my thyperst which i would dread and all i want is to be left alone. (i have never throw up on purpose by the way)
          i feel like im not good at anything, and i also cry my self to sleep most nights. its not that i have this horrsible life my familys great, i have a boyfiends thats amazing. i just feel like something missing out of me. i feel so hollow inside.  and that there is nothing special about me. nothing im good at.

what do you think we should do? should i see a therpist on my own? should i leave it alone until it feel happy again? please help

[eastendgyal]

I am very quiet teenage girl at school but when im at home im my normal loud self to my family.I have one or two good friends at school but im very shy when they see there old friends and talk to them.At home im always on my laptop watching eastenders or listening to music,when im away from my laptop i always think im missing something that is happening on it but when i finally get on it i just feel bored.
I sometimes sit in my room and cry for no reason i feel depressed most of the time and i dont feel my self at all i want to tell my mum who i know will understand but i just cant as im scared. I know im nothing like my family who are very popular confident people, i feel like the black sheep in my family and i dont know if im suffering from teen depresion or if im just a confused teen.I know i've been feeling this way for a long time but i just know my family might think im attention seeking.Whenever im forced to go outside im always on edge thinking ill see one of the popular kids at my school while im out with my mum i just dont know what to do anymore cd any body offer any advice ? Do i tell my mum and hope she believes me or do i leave it and hope it solves its self ?

[Sixtyfourpalm]

I'm depressed for a whole other reason when I was little my mum and dad broke up I'm now 13 and I've started missing my dad I see him every second weekend but I miss him soo much I love my mum heaps aswell but I've lived with her soo long I even get depressed at my dads thinking how painful it's gonna be when I leave him again.  

I'm just soo depressed I also get depressed thinking who made the world and if it was god who Made humans who made him but mostly I miss my dad can anyone help if you could I'd be very grateful to you.

[Sixtyfourpalm]

I've just turned 13 and I've started feeling major depression it swallows my life stile ive figured out why I'm depressed it's because my mum and dad broke up when I was little and I've lived with my mum and see my dad every second weekend. I've seen therapists before they don't help me at all. I don't know how I can fix the problem i've thought of suicide many times to escape the pain . But I'd never see anyone again I vry my self to sleep I ring him all the time how do I fix this unbarable pain if anyone can help it will be highly appreciated

[Sixtyfourpalm]

I'm depressed for a whole other reason when I was little my mum and dad broke up I'm now 13 and I've started missing my dad I see him every second weekend but I miss him soo much I love my mum heaps aswell but I've lived with her soo long I even get depressed at my dads thinking how painful it's gonna be when I leave him again.  

I'm just soo depressed I also get depressed thinking who made the world and if it was god who Made humans who made him but mostly I miss my dad can anyone help if you could I'd be very grateful to you.

[trippie94]

well go talk to someone who is able to tell you if you are depressed or if its just something else. it sounds like you might be depressed but im not sure, just make sure you caught it b4 you start to cut or really start to feel like dying, im at that right now and i wish i would of stayed on the med MHRC said i should take maybe i wouldnt be so depressed alot and dont know how to tell my parents or anyone i am. i have thoughts of killing myself everyday. when i cry it can b over anything like gettin dressed and not being able to find something i want to wear and saying i have nothing and gettin rlly mad n upset over nothing n freaking out when ive got so many cloths right in front my face, i'd hate to see you end up like me...

goodluck,
trippie94

[shar0322]

yes im depressed to and i just right it all down it's so much better ;] iit gives yhuu a way to explain and express yhuuur emoitons i promise !! im 14 and shuldnt be depressed but theirs so much things goin on in my life and it hurts me so bad i just didnt kno what to do anymore and one of my friends told me to write it all down!! tryy iit!!
xoxo Shartece Thompson.

[chrisaday]

I feel the same way. Ecept I am the least popular kid at my school. I am overweigt and trying to loose weight. Im going to be in 11th grade and have never had a boyfriend. I am always asking myself whats wrong with me. Lately come home from school berly keeping myself from crying. To keep my family from seeing how i am feeling i sit in the shower with the water as hot as possible crying. I feel like the ugliest person in the world. I dont remember the last time i laughed. I want to be happy again. This school year has been the hardest one i have ever had and i cant wait for it to be over. My goal is to loose 50 pounds by next school year, feel good about myself, and maybe get a boyfriend. My school had about five school dances every year, i have never been to one. I feel like i am missing out on what should be the best time of my life. I sit in class daydreaming about my parfect body and my perfect boyfriend. then i relize that its all a dream and that it is probably never gonna come true. Then i am back to crying. I dont like how my life is. Going. I want to be happy and confident again.

[bubbles12475]

I'm a girl in middle school and i don't know if i am depressed i have been really sad this year and just the other day i was at my friends house and my best friend was there and her and i never fight unless i borrow one of her shirts and don't give it back for some reason anyways, while i was at the party i was having fun just being myself then my ex-best friend came over and was being horribly rude to me and hung out with only my best friend and i just kept calling home to my mom and telling her i wanted to come home and i couldn't stop crying. Later that night we were going to bed and my friends house that we were at was the only one being nice to me then she said that i had to sleep on the floor because the others got the beds. So i was sleeping on the floor crying and then my friend said oh heres a pillow and threw it at me and thats all  had a giant pillow, and now blanket! So i tried falling asleep when i got to cold and went into the hallway where it was warmer and i tried sleeping there i was almost asleep with my eyes closed i shut the door behind me, but then i overheard them saying "what was that noise?" the other one said "What if she died" "then my nice friend said you know you guys would cry if she died.?" Then they both started to laugh. I started to cry even more wishing i would go away to a place far away from anyone, or anything. Then i walked back into the bedroom and i said "You guys we need to talk." Then they said "Okay were all ears." then i said "Why were you guys being so mean to me?" they just said that they weren't being mean to me i just had a really bad attitude, i just said that i was crying the whole time and they said well if you weren't so stuck up then maybe you would have had fun like us. And i just started to cry and went to bed. In the morning when i woke up i had the idea of making them breakfast with my nicer friend, just so they wouldn't be mad at me anymore. (I was sick of crying and wanted to just laugh.[:) So once we were done we went upstairs and told them we made some breakfast for them then they came downstairs and said wow this is sooooo cool theres food and i didn't even hear a thank you. So i started to say that i was sorry and then they just ignored me and i shouldn't even be the one saying sorry. Then everything was just fine and my best friend wasn't mad at me or being mean to me anymore and she said she was really sorry  and we both started to cry and hugged each other, i started to talk about what great friends i have and i mentioned all of them even my mean friend because i was really happy at the moment. But then my mean friend said to me oh all of those people talk crap about you and hate you and they all started a group against you! And of course i started to cry and said, but they are all my real friends. Then she said in a seriouse tone that she wasn't kidding that they really did hate me so i asked all of them and they all said that they loved me, so i just thought she was lieing, but she wasn't she started to talk to them on Facebook and they were all talking crap about me. I started to tear up and i said to my mean friend why she had to ruin my life. (I only said it because i was really upset.) And she said well you have no sense of humor and your always sitting by yourself crying and no one likes you! And then just before i left that house they all said sorry, and said that they al loved me but i knew it was just a lie. Everyday i have to deal with getting made fun of and picked on because i am different. And the only person i can count on is my best friend, to this day all i hear from my mean friend is so in so talks crap about you and i hate that i want to tell her i don't want to be another one of her clones anymore but i already told her that once and now she is trying to ruin my life. What should i do, and am i depressed? Please help me i want my life back.

[danielle187]

im  14 truning 15 soon i never used to feel so depresed i hate my life and some times think of suicide but never think of attemting it i hate my life i resently started studying and wanting to have a better furture but its not working i try doing good in school but i have a lake of intrest i have friends alot and im ever wel known at school i allways help people out when there feeling sad but i never tell anyone wen im sad i have a really close friend ive known her for 10 yrs but i still cant tell her anything even though i trust her with my life my mum never understands me i cant tell her anything coz she takes everything in the wrong way she allways tells me that she trusts me but it dosent feel like that my parents are from another country so they dont really noe how use teenagers are my realtive recently said to my parents that im a **** on facebook when i promise on my grandads life im the most inesent person and im nothing like that my parents havent been trusting me and my brothers have not been respecting me i allways wish i was dead or i could run away i hate my life and i dont even knoe what the point in living :'(

[danielle187]

hey bubbless no your not depressied that mean girl that hates u is just jelouse that her friends like u so shes starting **** and that she wants u to feel like no one likes u but deep down they do see when u have a really bossy friend like her and she dosent like someone her friends allways have to play along and say they  like that person even though maybe deep down they really do so she can feel good and think shes all dat dw about what any one says to you coz jelouse make a B.I.T.C.H talk and if those other girls don treat u right then u shouldnt be there friend u never needed them before and u wont need them now
[Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities!
Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.]
mwa hope i helped

[depressed13]

hey jut here to say if you need to talk message me

[EverythingWillBeOkay]

Im a 13 year old girl, 5'6 and 150 pounds. Im pretty tall for my age, but i look in the mirror and feel VERY overweight. I have tried to lose a few pounds but it never works. I have never binged, or been anorexic I have never done any drugs, or any alcohol and i have never cut my self. I have been told a lot that I am beautiful and sometimes I believe it, and sometimes I don't. I am a well respected kid in my school. I play softball on 2 teams and I love it. My parents are divorced and absolutely hate each other. My dad has a girlfriend, and i despise her. She is rude, annoying, ugly, and never in my life would i expect my dad to be with a girl like her. My mom has a boyfriend who I like, but is kind of awkward. My mom, and my fathers girlfriend are my biggest problem. My mom treats me well but always mentions my dad and what an awful guy he is and I just want her to stop. When I tell her it bugs me, she gets even madder and continues to fight with me.. when all I want to do is be alone. She says that I am crazy, and that I always act like everything is about me. There are a few incidents which I regret were i have thrown objects, such as a shoe, or TV remote, when she's called me names such as crazy, a ****, a *****, etc. However, she is the only person who makes me this angry and frustrated. The only thing holding me back from living with my dad is his girlfriend. All of these factors have added up and after reading these stories I feel I am depressed. I want to be alone, I feel like I am ugly, fat, annoying, etc., I have had suicidal thoughts.. but am scared of death. My friends haven't noticed anything about me because when I am with them I lighten up most of the time and I am happy, and when Im not, they think Im just in a bad mood and its a normal thing.. but Im pretty good at putting my feelings aside when I am in public. I don't want to tell a parent, friend, or teacher because my parents and teachers aren't anyone I feel close enough too and my friends may think of it as nothing much. I know I could get through it with a little tips, and advice to avoid fighting and getting angry with my mom and her comments. Please help!

[danielle187]

hey dw i promise you i know how your feeling it dosent matter how fat some one s or how skinnu they are its whats on the inside that matters i wont lie to you i not fat and im not skinny i like to look good and fix my self up to get noticed but i never do but you know what i never give up some boys some times tease me about my pimiple which i onyl have on or two but i stick up for my self and tell them it dosent afend me coz if i was going to sit there and listen to what they say i would have went and hanged my self im every well know at school and every one gets a long with me but there allways will be those imature people who are jelouse and allways have something bad to say and thats wen you need to stick up for your self coz

about your parents have you ever tryed telling your dad what you realling think of his girl friend or that you really think that he can find some one better and about your mum dw what she says about your dad you know why coz she hates seeing you getting alone with him more im not trying to say it in a bad way but she might get jelouse when she dose shout at you about your dad just dont listen tell her you dont want to talk about him and just go to your room ipromise its 100 times better then just siting there fighting with her coz its not going to get you any were and its not going to prove anything dont take is as a insult wen she swear at you and when some one is angry they say stuff they dont really mean like swearing and sayng that they dont love you ect

you shouldnt have low selfconfidence in your self cause you know what there are millions of people out there just like you and it dosent make you any different then any one were all humans no one is the smae wieght or height were all unique and special in our own ways yh your just like me i allways act normal in front of my friends and poeple no one nows anything about me they all think i live a perfect life wen little do they no i cry mys elf to sleep and 90% of the time wish i was dead or went to sleep and never woke up
hope i helped you and dw about anything just stay strong and talk to your i promise you he would be happy to listen to what you have to say and im 100000% sure your more important to him then his girlfriend mwa tc

[Nomigg]

Im 14 and i am in yr 9 a school.
lately i have been crying at everything and getting angry and upset for the tiniest things then i get soo angry i think suicidal thoughts (basically just thinking how mch easier life would be if i was dead and different ways of doing it)... my sleeping habits are terrible and im pretty sure i have gained weight.
i keep getting into fights with my parents and siblings and i feel like just screaming because we fight about tiny things.
my grades have dropped tremendously and i think i need some help.
i dont know if i should go to a counsellor or a Psychologist because im worried that if i do have depression ill have to start popping pills.

[yhalrite]

hey nomigg
you said you've been crying at evrything and upset for the tinniest thing there are alot of things that could make that happen maybe its because of some one who has left you latey maby a good friend any thing i really cant help you that much coz i needed a bit more detailss about whats happening trust mee dont ever think about it because its not gunna change anything do u get bullied at school ? and dont ever think about cutting your self i have a friend who get angry at the most smallest things and thinks she isnt loved and there is no point in living and she has cuts all over her body wen you get older and all this depresion goes away all those cuts you have on your body will only make it worst thinking about what used to happen and wat triigered it and it would make you feel worse i also my self have sleeping habits and lake of intrest in school work you just have to think positive dw every one has those lil fights with there parents of the most smallest things ever your not alone i dont really think you need a counsellor and dww even if you doo need one he wont make you take pillss and its up to you if you want to take them or not  When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile.

[dreamerforlife1717]

hi, my name is Lilly. i've been through a lot my whole life. i lost my dad when i was 3 and my mom left 2 years ago for her stupid boyfriend and for drugs and achohol. so know i live with my grandmother in an age 55 and older park. i have friends but i dont like to them my story because i feel emabbrassed. me and my sister used to be really close. but since i moved and she moved and now shes a mom she doesnt talk much. the last time i talked to her i flipped out. i didnt mean to i just wanted her to help me. i miss my mom and i started crying and all that stuff. i didnt want to but i dont really have anyone to talk to you know? so anyway she told me i should call my mom and tell her all this and make her my tears and my pain. but i dont know what to do. should i call her and tell her how i feel? or should i write her a letter. shes sober now but i dont know how long that will last. its always off again on again. well please tell me what i sould do. thanks soo much!