It sounds like your daughter has some Eustachian tube dysfunction.
The Eustachian tube equalizes the pressure in the middle ear, and in children this tube is not fully positioned so it becomes easily blocked. This leads to the popping sounds (the pressure building and releasing) and also contributes to a build-up of fluid in the middle ear when she has a head cold. The fluid causes hearing loss. This may resolve as she gets older, but sometimes people have chronic Eustachian tube difficulties that require medical management.
Has she been evaluated by an Ear, Nose and Throat physician? There are certain medications and techniques that may assist her in treating this condition.
We recommend medical follow up with an ear specialist to determine the best course of action.
She had seen an ENT and they tell me she's fine which she's not because she can't hear. We are currently trying the medication route I bought some OTC antihistamines. I wanted to ask are having tubes placed in her ears an option. Another problem I've come across is finding someone who would actually listen to me and not blow it off as a "selective hearing child" Thank you for your response!!