Secretion from tip of penis post mutual masturbation

[Jonnybegood80]

Hi, recently took part in mutual masturbation between 2 men. I'm aware from previous posts on the forum that this is not considered a risk for STIs. However, a few days after this encounter, during urination, a cloudy liquid very much like semen came out of the urethra (I was simply urinating and was not sexually aroused in this moment). Therefore, considering this discharge my question would seem to be about gonorrea/chlamydia. Did I put myself at risk? Should I get tested? I am actually married and so am suffering from a great deal of anxiety. The urethra seems to be slightly irritated too. Please help!

[auntiejessi]

Hi again :)

As you know there is no risk from this. Getting some kind of symptoms doesn't change that.

It's not unusual for men to have this kind of discharge, especially in the morning. Has it happened since? If it was one time, I'd write it off as nothing and totally normal.

I'm not judging you - what you do with your life is none of my business, but if this activity causes this much anxiety, is it worth continuing? I'm asking from a strictly health and mental health view, not a shaming one at all. You don't have to answer me - just something for you to think about it. It seems you enjoy it in the moment, and then agonize after.

Also, remember that guilt doesn't equal risk.

I included these in your last question, and will again in case you need them for refreshers, comfort, or whatever. Take care of you, ok?

Here are some posts from our experts (when we had them) that may help -

https://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/Nervous-about-mutual-masturbation/show/2183476

https://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/Mutual-Masturbation-STD/show/1968429

https://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/mutual-masturbation-sti/show/1858544

https://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/Understanding-the-risks-of-mutual-fingering/show/1516796

https://www.medhelp.org/posts/HIV---Prevention/Vaginal-fluid-on-hand-touched-inside-of-condom-and-head-of-penis/show/1119533 - read this thread thoroughly. There is an excellent explanation about why certain activities are not risks, and why others are.

[Jonnybegood80]

Hi Jessi, first of all, thank you so much for your kind replies and support. You are right about the anxiety and I need to address the behaviour. Regarding the discharge, it only happened that one time and hasn't happened since. It wasn't in the morning though and has never happened before so the timing of it plus my own anxiety made me immediately think of STDs even though you have already reassured me that there is no risk from mutual masturbation.

[auntiejessi]

I understand it causing anxiety - it probably would in anyone, regardless of the activities.

I'm glad it hasn't happened again - it was probably a one-off, but if you see it again, get it checked out. There are a whole list of things that cause genital symptoms that are not STDs.

Hang in there. :)

[Jonnybegood80]

Thanks again :)

[Jonnybegood80]

Hi Auntie Jessie, just to follow-up, I had STD blood and urine tests today in order to get closure on this anxiety and am waiting for results.

Can I also ask for your risk assessment on fellatio but with condom protection for the giver and receiver?

Thanks

[auntiejessi]

There would be very, very little risk from condom-protected oral sex.

There would be a slight risk for genital hsv1 and syphilis for the receiver, as those are transmitted by skin to skin contact, and condoms don't cover the entire area. The risk wouldn't be high enough for me to worry about, though.

The giver might be at risk for syphilis, if the receiver had a sore in the area not covered by a condom, but where their mouth touches. There has to be direct contact with a syphilis sore to transmit it.

This isn't something I'd spend any time worrying about.

[Jonnybegood80]

Ok thank you very much again for your support and this service.

[auntiejessi]

You're welcome :)