Adult circumcision scar painful during sex four years after surgery

[Shinsimr]

I had phimosis my whole life up until 18 years old. At that age I had my first surgery (because the phimosis was severe enough to warrent a surgery), and a year later I had to undergo a second surgery because of a little tear in stitches that resulted in a piece of "meat" being painfuly exposed. Now four years after second surgery my penis glans is very sensitive and the scar area is still painful. I can masturbate by touching other parts of my penis, but when I tried to have sex for the first time, it ended in embarasment. I couldn't get an erection because of the pain, stress and weird sensation. The girl even gave up on me. How could I improve the situation with hypersensitivity, pain and related erectile dysfunction without undergoing another surgery?

[auntiejessi]

Have you consulted with your doctor? Is surgery your only option, according to your doctor?

[Shinsimr]

Doctor appointment is in a really long time, and when I made it there were suggestions that surgery might be the only option but the doctor will have to see it in a couple months. Sex life won't wait though it is a now, or never situation for me right now

[auntiejessi]

I can't give you actual advice without knowing what's happened to you, but there are numbing sprays that help men with premature ejaculation. It's just lidocaine, and it can help numb the area.

The cons are that it, well, numbs the area. You wouldn't be spraying it all over, which would help, but it would decrease sensitivity. It also numbs your partner if you aren't using condoms.

https://www.hims.com/blog/how-lidocaine-spray-for-premature-ejaculation-works

If you use a cream, you can't use a condom with it. The oil in it will break the condom down.

Try to keep some perspective, though. Your sex life is not a now or never situation. This is not forever, even if it feels like it.