tigerlily

[tigerlily75]

Well, the last thread got too long. me and my kids hid in the room all night. just woke up. i have a couple errands today, including an appt with my therapist. im looking forward to it. Even though its so cold they have schools closed again. and i hate cold! But im going to stay out long as i can to get out of this crazy house!

[tooter212]

Tiger, I know you need to get away from your parents and enjoy yourself a little but you need to save some money so you can get your self a place to live. You'll have to have a deposit for your utilities and food for the pantry. If you just save a little each time you get money ( weekly, monthly?) It can give you something to work towards. That way when you find a place you will have the money to get it. God Bless

[tigerlily75]

I don't know what's going on with me today. I think I finally got tired of being sick and tired. I have to stay away from my parents right now. So I guess that's what got into me. I have just been gone with my kids all day, looking for jobs and childcare and housing. And we went out for lunch and dinner. Went to the library, played in the snow sone and did some retail therapy, mostly getting my kids new warm clothes, and movies, and even bought myself ab outfit. And I even got my eyebrows waxed! I'm running out of money and things to do though...

[ariley13]

Good for you! I love the library and it is always a nice, quiet place to go and decompress when you're stressed. (I'm a nerd!) Glad to hear the kids had a good time too. And now you can go and escape into your books.

[tigerlily75]

I LOVE coming here! Every one of you are so special to me and supportive!
So I did go to the library, got a little crazy and got like 29 books lol! At least I won't be bored! And my daughter got there to have their story time, she played on kid computers and got a whole bunch of books and movies herself lol! We carried out 3 bags!!!
And I checked into some social services stuff about daycare, but apparently there's a limit and I'm past it from my oldest child. But I'm just going to keep trying..

[tigerlily75]

I LOVE coming here! Every one of you are so special to me and supportive!
So I did go to the library, got a little crazy and got like 29 books lol! At least I won't be bored! And my daughter got there to have their story time, she played on kid computers and got a whole bunch of books and movies herself lol!

[Pat1956100]

OH I so agree.  You really have to get out of there.  Save every cent you can and make a plan.  Even involve your kids when they ask for something, tell them that the money is going towards their new home instead.
You CAN do this.  Look how happy you all were when you rented that room.  It doesn't have to be a palace but any place will be better for you than where you are right now.
I am so looking forward to hearing about the day you move.  I know it's going to happen.

[clean_in_ks]

Well I'm late to the party this afternoon...but I was gonna suggest asking your therapist for organizations, phone numbers, suggestions....for at least a temporary housing situation.  It may take some work...calling one place and then being told to try another....but if you want outta there bad enough maybe you will be led to a place that will work until you are more secure.

You obviously aren't without finances completely....so some places work on a sliding income scale as well.  With some searching....you'll find some answers......even if your parents DO go to your therapy appt.....it may help for your short term situation to work out some conflice....but you need to get outta Dodge baby!!!  And YOU WILL!!!

[mommymarieme]

I am so glad you are having a good day! Out and about is GREAT! I was thinking about you last night! I am not sure what state you live in but some domestic violence centers will set you up with an apartment and help with child care while you get on your feet. Maybe you could check into it? I don't know I just wish they would be supportive and help you thru this time in your life instead of hurting you. It just is not ok! :( I hope that they go to the appt with you next week so your therapist can hopefully help them to see what they are doing is wrong! We love you girl! I hope you have a wonderful day without any stress!

[ariley13]

Wow! You have been very productive. I think that's a great idea to have your parents come to your therapy session. Do you think they would be responsive to this idea?  Hmmm, what to do now...what about the library?  I know you love to read and it might be fun for your kiddos too.

[tigerlily75]

Well im having a fairly good day. Went to my therapist appointment and she wants my parents to come in next week. That could be interesting.
And I've been out of the house, feeling freedom and good. I've put in 4 job applications so far (with my 4 year old not fun lol), I checked with 2 apartment complexs. I went to WalMart and got some groceries and my daughter a ninja turtle movie and an outfit. Then I went to pick up my psychiatrist medicine and also got some more Excedrin, more multivitamins, a b complex, and magnesium. Then I went and got lunch for me and the kids. Its nice to have money I can spend instead of saving for more pills!
But now I'm not sure what to do...

[ariley13]

Hey Tigerlilly! I'm so glad that you guys are getting out of the house and away from your parents today. Seems that avoiding them as much as possible might be the only solution until you are able to find your own place. I am so sorry you are going through this awful situation. We are here for you. You take care and stay warm out there!

[brokenspiritandsoul]

I am not sure where you live but in Texas we have daycares that are state funded. You might want to see if your state offers anything like that.

[tigerlily75]

You guys are awesome! I feel out of control or depressed or anything I come here and feel better.
We are just leaving the house, I have my therapist appointment in about an hour, then I'm going to the library with the kids, then I'm going to do some job and house searching. Not sure how ill work since I have no help with childcare! But I've got to do something.

[Kbusymom]

I am so sorry for all you are going through.  I haven't been posting lately, but I've been reading.  It def sounds like your parents are trying to sabotage you and that is beyond horrible.  Please try to find some resources to get financial help; with 2 kids you should qualify for some assistance.
I'm praying for you and always rooting for you! Single mom superpower :))))

[ROSYouralright]

Hey, how is the house hunting going? What are you doing to try and get out of there? I know it's easier said than done but I'm just curious:) It's such an unhealthy situation for you and the kids!

[brokenspiritandsoul]

That is very sad!  They should support you and your kids during this time!  Dont let them bring you down. Fight even harder just to show them that you are stronger then they are!  

[tigerlily75]

No actually I think that's exactly what my parents are doing!

[brokenspiritandsoul]

Take everything one day at a time!  Once you get clean then you can get a job and get yall out of that house! Your parents might be sabotaging you on purpose so that you stay there and cook and clean. I dont say that to be mean so please dont think I am putting your parents down. Just think that you need to show them exactly how strong you are!  Get clean in spite on them since they won't help you stay clean!  

[tigerlily75]

Yes that's exactly how it is! I'm going crazy! My parents are crazy and my kids are clingy. Its alot that's for sure. I really need to find a way out, but can't, and that drives my depression and hopelessness deeper

[brokenspiritandsoul]

Girl, you have your hands full with your living situation!  I completely understand that you can't just move especially with kids!  You have to be extra strong and determine!  Break the cycle so that your kids dont travel the same road!  My kids become real clingy when there is tension around us so I can't imagine living that way. My kids would drive me nuts!  Keep staying strong and remember to believe in yourself!