My sponsor told my X bf that the only reason I broke up with him was because I wanted to go get high... My X told me she said that, and in anger I repsonded that I wasn't going to go to my homegroup anymore. My X told my sponsor at the time what I said, and now I've heard it from other people. I tried to go back to my homegroup, but I just couldn't make it in the door. I sat in the parking lot for 15 minutes, then turned around and went home. I know I brought this on myself, I shouldn't have gotten in a reletionship so early on, but I did, and I can't change what I did, only what I do. For the record I broke up with him because I felt that it was best for our recovery, not cos I wanted to go get high. It does suck tho, because it took me months to start feeling comfortable there, and now it's all ruined because of fkng gossip. Now I don't have a sponsor.. As for gossip being fatal, yeah I can see that because driving home, I was so disappointed in myself for not being able to walk in that I did want to use.. I just feel so alone, ridiculous and misunderstood. By the way my clean date is 11.3.07, and by the grace of God I'm hanging on, and doing what I'm supposed to be doing. Another problem I have is that I don't have a sponsor, and I'm having trouble calling people, because when I do, they don't answer or call me back, and that makes me think that they don't want to talk to me. When I start feeling lonely like this, then I turn inwardly for comfort, and I've found that this is a dangerous thing for me to do. Inwardly is where my disease is strongest, and I've found that as soon as the despairing thought of "Maybe I don't need to go to NA" the despairing thought (not desire) of using follows soon after. If I'm stupid or depressed enough to entertain that thought, then it will turn to a desire.. If that happens, then there's a pretty good chance that I'm going to use. I need NA, I need People, I need to quit feeling sorry for myself. But it's really hard, I feel so betrayed.