Hurt people hurt people

[hopeless1975]

I have been in a relationship for a little over 6 years my boyfriend has a heroin addiction problem when we first met he told me it was in the past i was ignorant to what addiction was we were living together however he was over the road most of the time so i didnt see much of what he did he when i questioned him about money he was spending i thought it was another woman needless to say i then found out he had picked up again our relationship has been an emtional roller coaster as he is always blaming me for things that happen to him he accuses me of doing things i am not doing we now live in seperate places de to his moodswings he does his best at hurting me by calling me out my name and pushing me away time and time again he tells me to move on and leave him alone but then weeks later he comes back like if nothing happened he is never satisfied with anything is this a normal behavior of an addict i want off the roller coaster but i still love and care about him what can i do? Please HELP!!

[Beccabeccalynn]

Have you looked into ALANON ? I think the program was made for you. Addicts blame everyone but themselves . When people act dishonest and manipulative they assume everyone else does too. When you close your eyes and picture your life in five years or in one does it look like your life now? Or worse ? If not then take action. Control what you can which is you. Someone has to act in your best intrest, why  couldn't that be you? Just food for thought
Becca

[LateAugust]

First of all you can listen to what he has said in his addiction,  and that is to leave him alone, move on, he accuses you of situations you had NO control over, or was even involved with, stole money, blames you for everything wrong in his life......  

Wow, I am sorry but what more can anyone say that  even competes with what he has told you??   His addiction as a side,  why on earth do you think you should be treated this way...... and to tolerate it??    Yes walk away,  forget that,  run as fast as you can.....  and I really hope you get some counselling to help you understand why you think he is someone that you would chose to be in your life.......    You do know you have been treated with total and complete disrespect????    Focus on your life,   so you can be stronger and in a healthy relationship next time.......