LOOK HEART... NO HANDS!!

[ROSYouralright]

I have a problem...
I am not sure how to explain it so I am going to do the beat I can...
I tend to worry about people (here) & I care... When people just "disappear" I really worry... WHY?
I don't see any of the girls that went through wd's with me anymore... I can only hope and pray they are
busy living a clean life in recovery and doing good!! I'm weird but I think "WOULD IT REALLY BE SO HARD
JUST TO CHECK IN & LET US KNOW HOW YOUR DOING?"
I mean... Just a courtesy check every now and then..It's just really hard not to care when you are
hearing the most personal aspects of someone's life, seeing them struggle & face tremendous pain & obstacles ..
IDK... I haven't learned how to not worry yet...
I KNOW RL GETS BUSY but just know if you don't check in you will have someone here worried about you!! Lol

[ExPat2013]

I agree! ROSY, I don't think you and I have ever conversed before. However, I have read your posts. You are so helpful and active in helping others. I'm a recovered alcoholic and drug addict. I joined this forum about a few weeks back for added support in maintaining my recovery. I've read many of your helpful posts, as well as your jokes and conversation starters. I agree that people should check in. Unfortunately, sometimes, they relapse and "disappear". We can only hope that they are recovering. I just want you to know that even though I am recovered, your posts help support my continued recovery. For those that are recovered like me, I suggest to continue to share and support others in the forum. Also, for your own support. I know it helps me. You rock, ROSY! You all do! Keep posting and keep helping! :)

[ROSYouralright]

Awwwww! Omg!!! See why I adore y'all?

[msdelight]

Oh Rosy we will never let you disappear on us! There will be a whole army of ex-addicts tracking you down and storming your house in Thailand!! I don't think I could get through the day without you! (Seriously). IMO, if you use this site to get clean and then don't stick around to help the others you are just not getting the full experience. Helping others here makes me feel happy. Almost guilty, because I get so much out it and sometimes I have to wonder who is helping who.  I like Sonrissa's analogy about the baby birds!
A very wise preacher once said "Some people are ten gallon people, and some people are one quart people. A one quart person giving you one quart is giving all they have, even though it to you, there are still 39 quarts left to give." Thank you for being a ten gallon people Chica. <3

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[Kbusymom]

I have felt the exact same way and I haven't been on here very long.  All the people I started with are gone too and I worry as well.  I started feeling like I couldn't respond to posts because of all the cycling and I had to push myself to start again.  I realized I was being really selfish in not giving back what had been so freely given to me.  

I know I've done the exact same thing in meetings and had people worry about me.  When I go out, I don't tell anybody, I just disappear.  I hope I don't act that way here if it happens.  
I think we just have to accept it; it happens in meetings pretty frequently.  People always seem to come and go whether it's RL or on here.  

[Sonrissa]

Hi Rosy, I understand how you feel. I tend to get very attached to people. It's difficult when they leave without a word. All I can do is hope and pray that they have been successful, and are happy and healthy, and have moved on with their lives. I hope that I was able to be of some help and influence for them. I try to look at it like they are baby birds leaving the nest to fly off into their lives. Silly, I know.

I was one of those people who left here for a while. I got depressed and felt I needed to be away for a while. I stopped believing that I could be of any help to anyone else, when I couldn't seem to even help myself.

The good news is that there is always someone new who comes here looking for help and support. That make it a bit easier, at least for me.

[ROSYouralright]

That is true too!! A very fine line.. As always thank you for helping

[IBKleen]

It never does go away. I too want to help and cure everyone but I can only do that for me. I still hurt. I just react differently.

I learned that focusing on others is a diversion for not focusing on myself. It's a fine line.

[ROSYouralright]

Wow! 6 years! Yea I bet you have. Right now its kinda heart breaking to me but Im working on it... I wish I could reach out and personally save everyone..
How long did it take you to get to the point where worry didn't eat at you??

[ROSYouralright]

Oh wow! Busy boy! So you found a taper buddy?? That is really good.. How long until you take the plunge?

[CRSeaside]

Loving Husband leaving Fri for USA, Then China, work 4+ weeks
Then off 3+ wks. He's running Marathon in Huntington Beach again this yr.
  I'm still strong on Taper& eml MH Taper bud every day! Thanks!

[ROSYouralright]

How are YOU Ms. Pamela???

[CRSeaside]

Hi DarlinRose.
  Sad thing,they may not have made it.
   I worry too. I answer questions & ask people to let us know, & nothing.
    You are amazing.
      You help lots of peo